One of the most difficult things a person can face in their life is that of a separation . Romantic breakups, and whatever circumstances they occur in, are always hard to cope with for the couple . There are countless reasons why two people decide to break up and end their relationship and, although it has been by mutual agreement and in a mature way, facing a new lifestyle after breaking up with your partner is always hard.

Every period of adaptation or grief is very necessary in any change, and this also applies to a sentimental breakup. The psychological processes that allow a person to adapt to the loss of a loved one will ensure that, in the future, there are no consequences, no pain or resentment towards the other person due to abandonment. What does happen in most cases is that there is a difficulty in assuming that what has been lost will never come back , and that it seems that life is going to become totally incomplete without the other person.

Regardless of the circumstances of the breakup and subsequent recovery, all these painful situations have a way out of the routine and life of always so do not despair, missing is normal and grief is something you need to go through . In any case, Bekia gives you a series of tips to deal with a breakup so that you can cope as well as possible until your full recovery and return to normality. Pay attention!

Take it on

One of the reasons why many people cannot overcome a breakup is because they do not assimilate it or want to accept it . This situation usually occurs when one of the members of the couple does not agree with the breakup and still wants to continue with the other person. When a relationship breaks down, it is necessary to distance yourself and carry the pain separately without any contact with the other person. It is advisable to erase or remove from our sight anything that reminds you of your ex partner to make adjusting to your life without her easier.

However, not wanting to miss and trying to completely erase the footprint of your ex and your life with him is not something that is recommended because, you will take the time you have been together, that person has formed an important part of your life and it will be impossible to erase your trail completely. Therefore, take something positive out of the situation, think about how happy you were together or the good times you had, but also analyze what went wrong. Closing a chapter , in this case love, is essential to be able to break definitively with the other person and continue with your life.

Allow yourself to cry and be sad

Crying is another of the taboo topics that exist when something painful happens. After a breakup, it is completely normal for you to feel an immense urge to cry and vent to the pain . Don’t blame yourself for being sad or feel like you’re weak for doing so. Crying is very necessary in a situation that overwhelms you and helps a lot to get through the duel earlier. In addition, being sad is part of the period of adaptation to your life as usual without a person you loved so nothing to feel guilty about it.

If you decide not to want to miss, overexert yourself and show yourself as if nothing had happened, this will make it much more difficult for you to overcome the breakup and, in addition, it will cause you an emotional overload that, together with the painful situation you are experiencing. Passing by, it won’t do you any good. Crying and being sad during the first weeks should not be taken away from you, not even yourself, so give yourself time , everything is overcome.

Spend time with your family and friends

Although it sounds cliché, the warmth and affection of your loved ones will always make a breakup easier to deal with and overcome. Although after the separation, you think that your whole life has fallen apart, the truth is that you have to think that your ex partner was just one person of many others who also care about you and love you. Obviously, you want to be alone at first, but after a couple of days, surrounding yourself with your loved ones will do you a lot of good and make adjusting much easier.

Find activities to do with your friends that are busy and entertaining . Also take the opportunity to spend more time with loved ones whom you may not have seen so much before. All these things will make you, at the end of the day, feel happy with your life and see that your world does not completely fall apart just because a person you loved is no longer part of it.

Focus on you

Although you may not think about anything other than your ex at first, there will come a point where you recover a bit from the breakup and need to focus on yourself . The idea of ​​this is to discover and see with your own eyes that absolutely nothing happens to be without a partner again and that life does not stop and it does not stop being fascinating . After a breakup and through the painful initial moments, take the opportunity to do things that you have never dared or could not do before.

If you have a trip pending, an activity to do or something significant to do for yourself, this is the ideal time to do it. Seek happiness in yourself and show yourself that to be happy to be able to be happy you do not expressly need another person. Breaking up a relationship or assuming the breakup is hard, and missing is inevitable, but just as everyone gets over it, you will too. It is only a matter of time .

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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