Being able to forgive and let go of the hurts of the past is a fundamental tool for a successful relationship. Being able to be a person is a way to stay healthy both emotionally and physically. Forgiving and letting go of bad thoughts will help you build a stronger relationship with your partner.

Benefits of forgiving

If you hold on to past hurts, disappointments, disappointments, betrayals, anger … you will be wasting your time and also your energy. It is important that you pay attention to the perceived harm, but then evaluate how to grow out of that situation instead of feeling hatred and bitterness. If you do not forgive, you wear yourself out and this is not good for your body or your mind. Resentment can hurt your heart a lot.

How to forgive a partner who hurts you

In order to forgive a partner who is hurting you, you must first bear in mind that you must find a way to stop hurting that situation and then:

-Be open and receptive to forgiveness

-Make the conscious decision to forgive your partner

-When betrayal and pain cross your mind, think of a place that calms you down or do something to distract your thoughts

-Don’t look guilty for the things that happen to you, don’t use it as ammunition in discussions

-Do not seek revenge, you will only suffer more

-Accept that you will never know the real reason for their behavior

-Be patient with yourself, forgiveness takes time, don’t run into this

-If you are still unable to forgive, seek psychological help

There are times when you have to forgive too many times in a partner it is because in reality, that relationship is toxic and it is possibly better to mark a physical and emotional distance with that person who hurts you.

How to apologize to your partner when you hurt yourself

On many occasions you can be the one who receives the damage and they must ask for your forgiveness, but in other cases, perhaps unintentionally, you are the one who hurts your partner. In this case it will be important that you take into account how to ask for forgiveness. The first thing is to not allow pride to control you, and then:

-Show your true regret and remorse for the pain you have caused

-Be willing to commit not to hurt your partner by repeating the same harmful behavior

-Accept the consequences of the action that created the damage

-Have an open mind to make amends

-Be patient with your partner. If he is hurt, it may be difficult for him to accept your forgiveness, do not give up

-Your apology must be sincere and verbal. This includes having an action plan to get it right.

A relationship needs forgiveness

The marriage , like any other close relationship, forgiveness needs to thrive. Remember that all people make mistakes and it is normal, we all have worse days and better days. Sometimes things are said that are not felt from time to time. All people need to forgive and be forgiven, especially before getting married, it is best to inform ourselves well, with these requirements to get married .

No relationship, especially dating relationships, can be sustained for long without forgiveness. Although it is difficult to forgive, if you really want to be with your partner and work things out with her and with yourself, then you will have to be able to do it.

Are there things that can be unforgivable?

If your partner abuses you, cheats on you, betrays you, lies to you or performs unacceptable behaviors, then that person cannot be your partner and you must end the relationship as soon as possible. You must seriously evaluate your relationship with your partner and end it. If you are married, you may need to consider ending the marriage and opting for a divorce .

When there is enough evidence of those worries that they don’t go away, despite your effort to forgive, your marriage or your relationship with you will be in serious trouble as well. In some situations where there have been bad times for too long but no longer exist, forgiveness for those hurts may take time but it is okay to happen. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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