All relationships go through different phases. It does not matter if we are talking about a romantic relationship , a family union or a friendship, all of them go through good times and ups and downs and sometimes they can reach a point of no return. That is when you can either give up or try to recover . Is it possible to get it when we talk about a friendship?

A friend can be forever, but the passage of time may also weaken that relationship. For a friendship to remain, you have to make an effort to maintain it and work on it , just as you have to do with a relationship to make it long-lasting. Sometimes there may be an argument, the passage of time, an estrangement or other circumstances that cause a friendship to weaken, even break.

From friend to simple acquaintance

At that point, it is necessary to decide what to do, if to let things flow and that relationship ends up disappearing. That the one who at one time was your friend, an important person in your life ends up being a simple acquaintance, someone with whom you greet you when you cross him on the street or with whom you interact on social networks , but it does not go any further. there. The other possibility is to try to get the relationship back.

It’s possible? No matter how strong the discussion has been, by the time that has passed since the last time you spoke or no matter how great the distance, yes. It is often said that friends are the family one chooses and as such they are people who are there for good and bad and are capable of forgiving practically anything. Taking that into account, you should know that a true friendship can survive many things , because it is stronger than any discussion or distancing.

Time to reflect

If you have had a confrontation, a quarrel or a fight with a friend, there are times when you have to allow time for each of you to take time to reflect, to see things differently and regain the relationship. The first thing you need is that, time for things to cool down . There are those who need more and those who need less. It also depends on what happened, a discussion about politics that can get out of hand is not the same as a stronger fight or a conflict that has long taken root.

If you have already had the necessary time and you think it is time to regain the relationship, you should contact your friend . It is not about acting as if nothing had happened, if so, there may be hidden resentments that sooner or later will come to the fore. The best thing is to stay one day quietly to talk. To see where you are each and to see if the two of you want to regain friendship or close it.

Speaking and listening

In general, unless the reason for the breakup was very extreme, the idea of ​​the two will go through recovering the relationship. So do your part, listen to your friend, talk between the two of you what you can do to improve the relationship, if necessary. Sometimes it is enough to clarify a misunderstanding that there was, even to realize what has been missed and the other person has been needed.

It may be the case that after a breakup your friend does not want to be one again, it may be that the situation is one of no turning back for him. If so, you can try to make him change his mind, but do not insist when you have been given no for an answer more than once. You have to know how to respect their decision. He may want to get the relationship back in a while.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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