Jealousy and uncertainty can wreak havoc on any relationship. These toxic emotions create toxic relationships and a beautiful relationship can turn into a nightmare. Jealousy consumes the energy of couples and can be found in any relationship.
It is necessary to learn to detect if your partner is overly jealous and how to handle the situation to save the situation, or at least save yourself. If you want to know if your partner has a severe case of jealousy and that this is weakening your relationship, read on.
Signs that there is too much jealousy in the couple
Jealousy is dangerous because they try to have absolute control of the other, in addition to that a jealous person will be showing his insecurity towards himself and also towards the relationship. Here are some unmistakable signs that your partner is becoming overly jealous and that you should put a solution to it as soon as possible to prevent the relationship from becoming very toxic:
-It tells you how you should dress or act
-He wants to know who you are with at all times or where you are
-Follows you everywhere
-Intervene in your social networks
-He calls you at all times to know what you are doing or where you are
-He has little sense of humor with you
-You do not have a trustworthy communication
-Try to always stay above yourself
-Always has a negative attitude, seems to have low self-esteem and lack of confidence
-They tend to be aggressive even over the most banal things
There are times when people confuse trust or love with aggressive behavior and control. When one person respects another, there does not have to be jealousy. A jealous person on the dating stage can come off as charming and charismatic. But when the relationship is established, this person will start to have negative thoughts and different behavior. They think that they cannot be loved and that is why they need to be in control, ‘so that love does not escape’, and without realizing it, love will escape because they will have turned a beautiful love story into something completely toxic.
What to do if your partner is jealous
First of all, you should first rethink if your relationship can be fixed or if it is better for you to walk away for your own good. Connect with yourself and with your essence, and then assess if that person really contributes to you or if it is better for each one to follow their path individually. If you think that your partner is good and you want to keep him in your life, then you should take some steps to solve this situation.
1- Talk about the problem. Go to a public place to talk to your partner and be positive. Start by saying that you want yours to work and that you are going to be honest with him / her so that this is solved. Do not start by saying what has a problem because then he will get defensive and it will be worse.
2- Be honest about how you feel. Explain how you feel when he behaves in this way. Use messages like ‘I feel’ and avoid phrases like ‘you’, for example: ‘When you call me when I’m with my friends, I feel bad because I think you don’t trust me’.
3- Ask him if he is capable of changing his behavior to save the relationship: ‘Would you be willing to stop saying / acting / doing …’?
4- Listen carefully to his answer, evaluate and think about what you will do. Listen to his answer and try to detect or determine the sincerity in his words. If he blames you or makes fun of you, then consider that that person does not deserve your love as you will remain in a toxic relationship.
5- Acknowledge your change or if you don’t want to change, leave the relationship. Repeat his response so that he is aware that you have heard him. For example: “I am glad that you are willing to change your behavior towards me, which makes me feel good.” Or if they continue with a destructive behavior, you will have to say: “I’m sorry, we will not be able to reach an agreement”, “As this affects me a lot and it seems that you disagree with seeking an improvement, I think it is best not to continue with this relationship”.