If your partner ignores you, do not drag yourself, you do not need to humiliate yourself to get their attention or redeem yourself. If your partner is “punishing” you with silence, you may not know what is happening or how you should respond to his behavior . Maybe you did something that hurt her or her feelings, but you’ve already apologized and don’t know what else you can do.

You may also not even know why he is ignoring you, but you feel the need to find out. When you are “punished” with silence, it is a type of passive-aggressive behavior, a form of non-verbal aggression that manifests itself in negative behavior. You need to learn to deal with these types of behaviors to enjoy a healthier relationship.

It is also worth noting that this not only works for relationships, but these tips can be used for any type of relationship when the other person simply ignores you. You will only have to adapt the advice to the specific circumstances.

Ask him what’s up

Be direct and ask directly what is wrong and if there is anything you can do to fix it. Most likely, even if you take this step, the other person will continue to ignore you, but trying to start a conversation shows them that you care. When someone ignores you, you may feel confused and it is normal.

It is difficult to decipher the intentions of your loved one when you completely close the lines of communication. Be patient as you try to find out the root of their behavior.

Don’t get into their game

Don’t play their game. If you are sincerely asking what is wrong and the other person does not respond, it is because they are probably manipulating the situation. If this happens, instead of sticking around and continually asking him to open up to you, just walk away and tell him that you will retry communication in a couple of hours, for example.

Being open and honest with your partner is the only way to have successful communication.  This behavior is not helpful and serves as a barrier to effective communication.

Change the negative thinking pattern

Change the negative pattern. If your partner continues to ignore you and doesn’t talk to you over and over again, you can help him work to redirect the habit that has developed in his life. Wait until he starts talking to you again, and then address the issue. Usually this behavior has been ingrained in a person’s personality as a way of dealing with difficult emotions. Talk about different coping methods with your partner or family member , how to choose good communication about emotional games and vulnerability to manipulation.

Express your concern

Expresses concern about the situation. Show him that you take care of him and that you will be there for him through all of life’s challenges. If you show your love and commitment to that person you care about, they may not be tempted to play games with you during a conflict. Since this type of behavior is the opposite of vulnerability, let him know that you would love for him to communicate with you about what he is feeling. Explain that you do not have to fear their reaction and that you will try to work through whatever problems they are facing.

When a person feels understood, they are more likely to be able to have more open communication and, therefore, to be able to express their feelings with greater precision and in a healthier way. If in any case, despite your attempts, that person continues to treat you badly, then you will have to ensure your emotional integrity and you will have to start keeping your distance so that their behavior does not affect you too much until they decide to change it. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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