There are times when it is difficult to differentiate if we are really in love or if what we feel for another person is simply attraction or that we like a little and that’s it. Maybe you have real conversations and you also realize that when you are with that person your time flies by … But you still need to find out how he really makes you feel because you feel some confusion.

Confusion can occur when you see a person and you are very comfortable but when you are not by their side you do not miss them. Don’t worry because mature love consists of loving a person but at the same time knowing how to be without them. Although if you feel confusion and do not know whether or not you are really in love, here are some keys so that you know if it really is love … or not.

Compare him to other guys you’ve dated

Yes, comparisons are obnoxious … but if you’re wondering how to tell true love apart from the whim or infatuation stage, a good way to do it is to compare that person to others you’ve dated before. If you want to know if it really is love, compare it without fear with your other previous partners.

You will know that you have fallen in love when that person makes you feel things that you have never felt before, even when you thought you felt love. You will be a sweeter, more interesting person, more interested in commitment , more trustworthy, and generally better. You will think so highly of that person and you won’t even believe that you dated other people before that person. You definitely wish you had been with him all this time …

Imagine that you walk away

Sometimes the best way to find out how you really feel about someone is to imagine yourself walking away.  If you wonder how to differentiate true love from infatuation or whim, then think about how you would feel if you broke up with that person tomorrow … Would you cry? Would you feel totally and completely devastated? Would you feel like you’ve lost your soulmate and best friend and can’t even believe this is happening to you?

If you can’t even imagine what your life would be like without this guy, then that’s a very good and clear sign that this is true love. And if he feels the same way about you, which of course is what you expect, it’s an even better sign. If you shrug off the idea of ​​not dating this person anymore, it shows that it is just a whim and it is not true love.  It’s helpful to ask yourself this question, and you’ll definitely know the answer right away so you don’t have to search too hard.

Ask yourself if you always get excited when you see him

Do you know what is the final way to differentiate true love from infatuation? Ask yourself if you are always excited to see this guy. Does even the thought of seeing it again fill you with joy and excitement?  When you wake up next to him, are you happier than ever and is he your favorite person?

Sure, you can smile when this person shows up on your doorstep or when you meet at a restaurant, but if you’re not thrilled when you get to spend time together again, it’s just not true love . You want to feel that every day with him gives you the greatest joy of anything you’ve ever experienced before. You will even be thrilled to take a walk around your neighborhood, which is something you’ve done a million times before, but it’s so much more exciting because you’re with the person you love …

True love and falling in love can make you feel similarly. You can feel super happy, your thoughts can be consumed by this guy all the time, and you can feel like you have a ton of energy all the time, no matter what is happening. But true love and falling in love are, in fact, very different and mean different things in your life. When you are in love and it is real, then you have found your person and you feel sure of it. When it’s just a crush, you really don’t know how long the two of you will be in each other’s lives, and things are much more casual …

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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