Getting a person to commit to you is not as easy as it sounds. Although deep down, all people want to be in a committed relationship and feel loved and loved for the rest of their lives. There is nothing more surprising than a deep and committed relationship, but getting someone else to commit can be a great challenge.

Maybe you start dating an incredible person, things are going well, you are dating and there is connection , spark and chemistry … But then come the dreaded words: “I don’t want anything serious”, “I’m not ready for a relationship”, “It’s not you, it’s me”, “I’m not looking for a commitment right now”, etc. When this happens it seems that time stops … Why not want to compromise if apparently everything is going well?

The answer is that there are some very specific biological reasons why people don’t want to commit … But there are ways you can break the commitment phobia and make that person realize that being by your side is the best thing that can happen to him, at least, for now.

Lack of commitment

There are people, especially men, who find it more difficult to maintain a real commitment in a relationship between two people. Women have an easier instinctual way of building deep, committed bonds with others. Once a woman spends significant time with a partner, the brain releases hormones that ignite that compromised bond.

In contrast, men have deep and ingrained biological and psychological reasons that go back centuries that prevent them from committing. Basically, it’s in your DNA. They can be things like, unconsciously avoiding being hurt, since they might appear “weaker” to others … just like in the time of cavemen. So, as women, we are really against thousands of years of biology. 

Regardless of whether you are female or male , there are ways you can use psychology to get your partner to commit to you.

Commitment in a couple relationship

Compromise is a decision anyone can make … you just need some smart strategies to tap into the psychological makeup and. Make him and anyone else commit with love , devotion and bond with you.

Be decisive and strong

You must show yourself as a strong and decisive person and that they do not make every decision for you. If the other person has to decide everything for you, the relationship will become boring and they will get angry with you for not having initiative. That person chose to be with you for who you are.  Remain that strong, independent person and see how he is drawn to you more deeply!

Keep living your life

You may want to be with your partner all the time, but you must resist that temptation and continue living your life. In this way, your partner can miss you and long for your presence when you are not around. This is necessary for there to be commitment in a relationship. Do not stop living your life to have a partner, so continue making plans with your friends, with your family , do the activities that you like to do on your own, etc.

show gratitude

As you settle into life as a couple , it’s easy to forget the little things like saying “thank you.” But you’d be surprised how much this little show of appreciation for commitment. Take a moment to be grateful whether it’s cleaning, picking up something, shopping, or making food. Although it may not be obvious, this little gesture has a huge impact on the person next to you. If you are a grateful person, the relationship will be much stronger and so will the commitment between the two of you.

And of course, trust your partner and enjoy doing fun things together. Because a relationship doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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