Surely you have realized that posting on social media becomes addictive sometimes … That’s right, like any other drug it starts out as something fun and harmless. You can start by posting pictures of yourself on vacation and suddenly, you see how you start to have ‘likes’ because your contacts seem to like the image you have shared, and that makes you feel good, right?

The problem is that over time, you can get caught in a vicious cycle where you need ‘likes’ and positive comments on your posts. If ‘likes’ and interactions on your posts are scarce, then you may have a certain feeling of ‘lost’. This can leave you feeling emotionally in trouble.

When you are dependent on the ‘likes’ it is because you have low self-esteem

It is very easy to be dependent on the ‘likes’ that are received and that your happiness has to do with it, it is a difficult addiction to overcome. Your mobile device is a communication tool, but in reality, you are becoming its hostage.

The first step in learning to escape is to understand that the constant need to “like” and share is often a sign of low self-esteem. If you can learn to increase your self-esteem, you can break the mental and emotional chains that bind you. But of course, having a good self-esteem is not an easy task, but it is not impossible. You will have to work hard every day, know and practice the most effective tips and techniques.

Self-esteem determines how you feel and think about yourself

Why should you worry about self esteem? That’s as easy as wondering whether or not you care about yourself. If you have low self-esteem you will think that you are worse than others and if you have it at a healthy level, you will know that you have value and you will feel good confidence with yourself. For this reason, yes, you should worry if you have good self-esteem or not. Having it well is necessary for your emotional well-being and above all, for you to be a happy and successful person.

If you have good self-esteem, you will feel stronger and that you can with everything. For this reason, if you realize that you depend on the ‘likes’ of your social networks to be more or less happy during the day, then, you should start detoxifying from social networks and start working on your self-esteem as soon as possible. possible. How? Follow these tips.

How to improve your self-esteem and that social networks do not control your happiness

Don’t expect perfection

If you are always looking for perfection, the world will disappoint you … time and time again. If you want everything to be perfect, you can miss new opportunities, and also your ability to finish things.

Do not compare yourself with others

Why do you want to compare yourself with others? Everyone has the life that they have to live and you must enjoy what you have and above all, the little things. Don’t compare yourself to others or miss what you don’t have. Enjoy what life has given you and enjoy the little moments.

Help the others

If you help others, you won’t have time to worry about your low self-esteem. You can contribute in society to help the most disadvantaged, this can increase your self-esteem because you will feel good about yourself. Think that most of the things that other people put on social networks, it is not true at all. They only show a part of their life that they want others to know. But they, they are humans like you, they also have problems.

What causes low self-esteem?

If you have low self-esteem there will always be some reason that causes it. You should take care of looking for that reason and try to solve it as soon as possible to feel emotionally balanced again. You must maintain a good emotional balance and have confidence in yourself, to know that you can face what makes you bad.

If you have negative thoughts, you should change them for positive ones. Have positive self-conversations and above all, do not think that the ‘likes’ of your publications. If you share with your contacts, do it simply for the kindness of sharing your moments, and not to seek social recognition from other people. You don’t need recognition from anyone, well yes … from yourself!

You do a lot of things well

Focus on what you do well. Life is like a ladder, there will be people who do things better than you and others who do worse. Do not think about one or the other, think about the things that you do well right now and how you can improve and surpass yourself. You are not inferior to anyone so avoid comparisons.

Think that each of us is unique, so you will also have unique talents. There are people who can be excellent in making decisions, others in playing sports, others may have the gift of the written or spoken word, etc. You just have to focus enough to know what you’re good at and focus on that.

bridge goals

Once you know the things that you do well, you will have to set goals that motivate you to be a better person and to improve yourself personally. Think about the goals you want to achieve in your life. Start with easy goals like going for a 30-minute walk each day or riding a bike. It can also be saving and putting 5 euros in a piggy bank every day … Or maybe your goal is to spend more time with your children, family or friends, you decide!

That social networks do not control you

Remember that social networks are a communication tool and in no case are they a tool for you to crush your self-esteem. Don’t compare yourself to those ‘perfect’ lives of others. Don’t spend hours looking at Facebook or Instagram, and if you have 10 likes it is just as good as if you have 1,000. Because the ‘likes’ you have do not matter, if not that you are sharing the things you want with the people you consider appropriate. Do not seek social recognition or approval from anyone.

Remember that it is very important that you take care of your life outside the virtual world. If you want to be truly happy, spend quality time with the people you love, maintain a healthy diet, exercise or move daily, connect with people you have far away through networks … But do not become hostage to social networks. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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