Everyone, at some point in their lives may feel that they have failed, but the important thing is not to stay with that negative feeling, but that the person is able to work on their own resilience and move forward in life … and grow internally! Many people will do their best to avoid mistakes or failures in life so they don’t have to feel painful emotions.
Knowing how to deal with failure in a healthy way removes some of the fear of failure, and it can reduce pain so you can recover sooner . If you don’t know how to get it, don’t miss the following tips.
Accept your emotions
Failure is accompanied by a variety of emotions that you can feel as negative: shame, sadness, anxiety, anger, rage, etc. Being uncomfortable feelings, many people will try to do the impossible not to feel them. You need to accept your emotions and don’t try to avoid or avoid them. It is better that you feel the emotion, that you identify it and that you think what you can do to avoid feeling this way in the future. This will help you find solutions to improve next time.
Recognize unhealthy ways to mask emotional pain
Maybe when you get fired from a job you think things like, “I didn’t want that job anyway,” in an attempt to minimize the pain. You may fill that pain with food, alcohol, or cigarettes, but that won’t cure your emotional pain. This will only provide temporary relief, but afterward, you will return to where you started in your discomfort.
It is important that you recognize the unhealthy ways you use to mask emotional pain. Moving on to coping skills that do more harm than good will only make the situation worse.
Practice healthy coping skills
Calling a friend, practicing deep breathing, taking a bubble bath, going for a walk, or playing with your pet are just a few examples of healthy coping skills . However, not all coping skills work for everyone, so it’s important to find coping skills that work for you.
If you struggle with bad habits when you’re stressed, like smoking or eating junk food, make a list of healthy coping skills and post it where you can see it safe. Then use this list to remind yourself of the healthiest strategies to turn to when you’re feeling bad.
Recognize irrational beliefs about failure
You may have developed some irrational beliefs about failure at some point in your life. You may think that failure means that you are bad or that you will never succeed. Or maybe you think that nobody will like you if you fail. These types of beliefs are inaccurate and can prevent you from doing things that you could fail at. Identify these types of beliefs that only intoxicate your mind and get rid of them. Think things more rationally to realize what can be real and what is not.
Develop realistic thoughts about failure
People are used to sabotaging their positive thoughts and turning them into negative ones. There are those who think that a simple mistake is a total failure, when in reality it can be a learning opportunity. When you find yourself thinking that you are a desperate cause or that there is no point in trying again, reframe your thoughts. Remember more realistic thoughts about failure, such as:
- I can handle failure.
- I can learn from my failures.
- Failure is a sign that I am challenging myself to do something difficult and grow internally.
You can repeat an affirmation phrase or mantra to ward off negative thoughts and reaffirm that you can recover.
Accept an appropriate level of responsibility
It is important to accept a precise level of responsibility for your failure. Taking too much responsibility can cause you to blame yourself unnecessarily. On the other hand, blaming other people or unfortunate circumstances for your failure will prevent you from learning from it. When you think about your failure , look for explanations, not excuses. Identify the reasons why you failed and recognize what it can do differently next time.
Face your fears, and learn from what happens to you!