Prejudices are the bread and butter in our society; there are prejudices towards people’s sexual identity, their skin color, their country of birth or their social status. All these prejudices, regardless of what they refer to, are toxic since their basis is ignorance and their main repercussion is the rejection of women and men whose identity or tastes are beyond the norm.
Although it is true that we often talk about the negative repercussions that homophobia, racism, machismo or classism have , there is a prejudice that usually goes very unnoticed, making it even more dangerous. We are talking about biphobia , which are prejudices against bisexual women and men; that is, against people who are attracted to other people, regardless of their gender.
Biphobia literally means hatred or fear of bisexual people . It is a completely different phobia from homophobia, although it has a common root, and it is discrimination towards sexual diversity that women and men end up suffering equally. However, while homophobia is talked about openly, biphobia is usually covered up; and it is that very little is said about bisexual people, making them look like a phase between heterosexuality and homosexuality , when nothing is further from reality. What’s more: the mere fact of considering bisexuality a phase is biphobia, because it is closing a door to all those who consider themselves bisexual, and they are being indicated that what they feel is not only that it is wrong, but that it does not even exist.
However, biphobia brings with it an immense amount of added prejudice towards bisexual women and men. Although you have probably already heard them all, in today’s article we are going to take care of denying them one by one; Only then can we dismantle myths and end latent biphobia in our society.
1. Being bisexual is not being promiscuous
There are those who, when hearing about bisexuality, the first thing they think is that they are promiscuous people and that they are attracted to sex without more , regardless of the sexual identity of the other person. Nothing to do: a bisexual person can have sporadic sex like any other, as well as romantic relationships. The only difference is that you can be attracted to both women and men, interchangeably. This does not imply that you will want to do threesomes; can be bisexual and prefer sex with a partner, and with love involved. Or it may not! But none of this will have to do with your sexual identity.
2. It is not a phase
Bisexuality is not a phase; This is the thought with the most inoculated biphobia, without a doubt. Indicating biphobia as a phase, as something temporary, is to tell all those who declare themselves bisexual that they are wrong, and that they are not even mature enough to know their sexual identity .
Bisexuality is not a phase, it is not a stage, it is not a step between heterosexuality and homosexuality, and it is not a hiding place for those who do not want to openly declare themselves homosexual. It is a way of feeling more, it is a sexual identity.
3. If you are bisexual, you like men and women equally
This is not exactly the case, since you can be bisexual without there being any kind of measuring stick; That is, you may like men more than women, or vice versa, without implying that you are no longer bisexual . Bisexuality does not mean that you necessarily have to be with the same number of men and women in your life, because at the end of the day what it implies is that you can fall in love with both one person and another, without more!
4. Being bisexual is being unfaithful by nature
This is a prejudice that is usually attributed to both bisexual and homosexual people, and is to label them unfaithful . It is closely related to the first prejudice we have talked about, that of promiscuity. According to who thinks like this, bisexual people are incapable of establishing monogamous and lasting relationships . To be honest, anyone can be faithful or unfaithful regardless of who they are attracted to; Or you can just decide to have an open relationship. It has nothing to do with who you are attracted to, or whether you like only men or are also attracted to women.
5. Bisexuals like everything, without distinction
One of the most biphobic arguments is undoubtedly pointing out that a bisexual person tries to be with everyone in the world; It is like believing that a homosexual man will try to establish a relationship with all the men within his reach. If a heterosexual person does not, what can lead us to think that a bisexual person does? Nothing to see!
Being bisexual doesn’t mean you lose the ability to decide who you like and who you don’t . Like everyone else, bisexual people will have marked tastes in terms of women and men to their liking.
6. A heterosexual relationship does not make you stop being bisexual
Sometimes when a bisexual person is in a long-term relationship with a bisexual person, they tend to think that bisexuality “has passed away.” And no! Because again, bisexuality is not a phase and believing this is biphobia. A bisexual person, as the term itself indicates, can be with women and men indistinctly, without this implying that at one point they are heterosexual and at another homosexual. Because precisely what bisexuality means is that.
The main problem with all these prejudices is that they create in our head a totally erroneous and mistaken concept of what bisexuality really is . It not only affects whoever is homosexual or heterosexual, but also directly harms bisexual people, since they see how they are not taken into account when having relationships because of their sexuality, how they are discriminated against because of their sexual identity and, above all, how they are made invisible. It is one more sexual taboo that we should break to achieve an inclusive society.