Toxic people can do you a lot of harm almost without you even realizing it. People who meet this ‘toxic’ profile are not that they are toxic themselves, but rather that they have behavior that is toxic both to themselves and to the people around them. Healthy relationships with other people reduce stress and contribute to good mental, emotional, and physical health as well.
In contrast , people who have toxic and negative relationships with other people have a higher risk of heart disease compared to people who have more positive relationships.
Toxic relationships can present themselves in many different ways: it can be a relationship with your parents, with your siblings, with your partner, friends, co-workers, with your boss, etc. You can’t always get toxic people out of your life, there are times when you have to live with them. If this is the case, it is necessary that so that they do not affect you negatively, you mark an emotional distance along with clear limits so that they know that they cannot ‘intoxicate’ you.
Labeling someone as “toxic” to you does not necessarily mean that they are a bad person and is in no way an attempt to associate a human being with pollution in the literal sense. It also doesn’t mean getting rid of people when they are going through difficult times and engaging in undesirable behaviors. In these cases, these people need help and emotional support so that they can find their emotional balance again.
What it does mean is that you have to constantly evaluate the people in your life and how they make you feel. Some people are toxic because they have been behaving this way for years and do not know how to act otherwise. It is important that you know when a person is really toxic and when they are really going through a bad time.
Signs you shouldn’t ignore from toxic people
They don’t apologize to anyone
A toxic person will never apologize to another. They will be able to construct elaborate lies before admitting they were wrong, no matter how obvious. The good news is that as rational beings that we are, we don’t need a reason to keep going. It is a way of manipulating with a desperate attempt to move on.
They look like narcissists
Toxic people resemble narcissistic people . If you benefit him, you will be in his life, if you do not contribute anything, he will not mind taking you out of his life without scruples. You don’t have to prove your worth to stay in his life, it’s not worth it. In fact, that you are not inside his life is a favor that he does you.
They don’t reflect
Toxic people manipulate the people around them. Instead of understanding their own feelings or that of others, they will be the ones to blame others before taking responsibility for their own actions or words. They can blame you if they are in a bad mood. Remember, this psychological manipulation has nothing to do with you. It’s about them.
It is not uncommon for someone who has been in a toxic relationship to reveal what they now recognize as deliberately manipulative acts. He attributes such accomplishments to entitlement, lack of self-esteem, or outright selfishness. Most likely, this manipulation is so deeply ingrained that even the most selfless and benevolent among us are unable to appease such scandalous and devious behavior.
Never shows his true face
One day, this type of person can be shown as loving and caring, the next day he is distant and cold. You do not know how you are going to find this person … They feel that this way they maintain control of situations.
Kind-hearted people will almost always try to understand someone else’s problems and contribute some kind of solution. The problem is that there is no real “problem”, and a “solution” is nothing more than a mirage. Most of the time, your thought process is full of toxic thoughts.
They destroy the good atmosphere
Do you have good news to share? You better not involve someone toxic. Did you get a raise? Do you want to plan a vacation? Adjust your schedule to be more available? It is better that you do not tell a toxic person because because of their envy they will want to ruin everything good that happens to you.
Toxic people have a way of twisting any positive news into something negative. That is its nature. Don’t let him contaminate you with his negativity.
They don’t want to take responsibility
Solving a problem that involves more than one person requires cohesion. Unfortunately, toxic people are completely unable to reciprocate which, for most people, is a natural and fair response. Instead they will try to go in the opposite direction of their own responsibility. They do not want to be responsible for their actions so solving problems is not important for a toxic person. They prefer to create problems than to solve them.
They will also be that type of people who maybe something feels wrong but do not say anything and at the least expected moment bring out those ‘dirty laundry’ to shine. When you least expect it or even when that no longer makes sense.
They tend to make contempt for other people, they refuse to allow others to have contempt for themselves. They may make jokes but never be made to them … in their disappointed sense of reality, they will insist that any perceived flaw is a sore spot.
Their role as victim is very intense and if they can create an almost irrelevant tell-tale drama, they will of course succeed. Anything that is drama is their specialty and if they can be the victims instead of responsible people looking for solutions, so much the better.
Surprisingly, toxic people embellish their achievements while depreciating those of others. It’s not about them … so they don’t care. It is human toxicity in the most precise and concise way possible.
If you think you have a toxic person in your life, you need to know how to handle it so that it does not affect you more than necessary. Remember that it has to do with them, not with you.