No matter how many great people you have around you … there will always be people who don’t like you and who will try to destroy you emotionally. Not all friends will be good friends, nor will all couples be perfect. There will always be people with whom we think we will get along, but in the end we will find that we do not get along as well as we hoped. Sometimes we just split up, but more often, some kind of drama happens.
No matter how old you are or how long you’ve been out of high school, there will be people who will make your entire life as dramatic as it was in high school. Just because you’ve matured doesn’t mean everyone around you has. It’s something that everyone gets tired of pretty quickly … Next we’re going to show you how to deal with people who are trying to destroy you emotionally.
Remember it’s not about you
People feel the need to emotionally destroy others when they feel threatened. They aren’t happy with where they are in life, so they feel like they need to drag other people with them … so it’s not your fault . You can go months or even years without talking to them or thinking about them, yet they will still try to find a way to go back and put any blame on you … Whatever they have to say about you, they will say.
They will say everything they can to guarantee their self-esteem and, of course, all their ailments will be your fault. That will never change. They are the ones who feel the need to destroy you emotionally and find reasons to attack you, not the other way around. What you say about others says more about you than the people you are talking about.
Do not give up
The objective of being people is to impact your life in a negative way and that you pay attention to them, it seems that they have nothing better to do, but you should not give up. For example, if they send you harmful or hurtful messages, don’t reply. The reason people text is to get a response . If that person chooses to write a nasty message to someone who hasn’t been in their life for a while, then there is an underlying problem.
These people will do their best to use the information they have to hurt you. They will say anything and do their best. If ex-friends are trying to destroy you emotionally, then they will use whatever information they have about you that is most relevant to them, even if that information is months or years old. They will use words to manipulate you and make you try to rethink your life. Don’t let it get to you more than necessary.
Get him out of your life
At the end of the day, these people are not in your life for a reason . You made a conscious decision to create space between yourself and those people. Don’t forget about it. Something had to have happened to make you realize that they are not the kind of people you want to have in your life. You did the right thing by moving on with your life and progressing with whatever it is that you have been doing. These people know that they cannot control you, so they will do their best to try to control how others see you. It’s right? No, but there is nothing you can do about it.
You must have people in your life that you enjoy being around because this way, you will know that you are not a bad person and no one will try to make you believe this. Other people’s opinion of you doesn’t have to change the way you see yourself. This is not being authentic. You must behave like a rational adult and accept who you are as a human being. What you did in the past, there it stays … as all those toxic people who try to destroy you emotionally should stay.