What makes one person persevere in difficult circumstances while others sink emotionally? Resilience does not seem to be the same within people and it is a very important issue that everyone should take into account. We live in a changing world and resilience is the differentiator of how things are presented to us and how we overcome them. The only thing that is measured in school is IQ, but with observation and experience , success depends on the ability to learn and recover. This is why resilience makes the difference.

The success of children and of any person will depend on the resilience that one has. It is a great advantage to have a certain amount of IQ, social intelligence , good looks and physical health, but the characteristic that continues to lead to the top is stamina, passion and perseverance for long-term success.

What we don’t know is how to teach value and keep people motivated in the long run . What we do know is that talent is not what makes you brave. People who are residents have some common personality traits, so if you want to be more emotionally resilient and work on your resilience, read on.

Keep goals

Small goals are good, but the big picture keeps you energized. Having “the big win” in mind fuels your resilience when the daily grind begins to wear you down. Start with the end in mind and keep imagining the big picture. This will increase your ability to persevere.

Put aside distractions

Sometimes our ability to persevere is not directly a resilience issue , but a distraction issue. The extra things can do a number on our “resistance meter”. Too many outings, hobbies, meetings, and projects dull our resolve. On the contrary, eliminating the strange strengthens our resilience. It is good to leave the younger so that we do not abandon the older.

See yourself as a tough person

This is about our style of thinking.  We have all developed habits of thought that affect the way we view ourselves, our world, and our future . These thinking styles can be beneficial. The dark side is that they can lead us astray by misinforming us about what is happening.

It is amplified during high levels of stress, uncertainty and ambiguity. Some of these beliefs are limiting. Understanding the positive and negative implications of your thinking will help you see yourself differently. Your precision and flexibility increase and help you generate more solutions.

You have a growth mindset

The ability to learn is not fixed, it can change with effort.  Young people should be taught about the plasticity of the brain , how it grows when challenged. When taught that the brain is a fixed entity (which some evaluations imply), they develop a defeatist attitude of “Why bother?” And “What good is it?” With a growth mindset, they are more likely to persevere when faced with failure because they know that it is not a permanent condition, and that you learn from mistakes.

You put things in perspective

Catastrophizing creates a vicious trap. Anxiety increases, which in turn decreases the ability to overcome the challenges you face. It leaves you speechless. What if we could spend less time worrying by reducing anxiety? Worst-case scenarios and fears aren’t easy things to ignore, but tough people write them down; now they can deal with them realistically and prudently. Keep a journal to capture your emotions!

The world is getting more turbulent, and our resolve will be tested. What will you do to adapt, survive, and thrive?