Be aware of this: who have you interacted with in the last 24 hours? You may have done it with co-workers, friends, family or acquaintances on social networks. Most likely, you have also spent more time with people who are not really important to you, but more general well-known. Meanwhile, the people you care about the most don’t enjoy quality time with you.

This happens too much today, it is incredible how technology decreases the quality of human relationships. Now people interact in a very different way than we used to do years ago. In this sense, it is worth reflecting on what the relationships you have today are like.

Until not long ago we did not ‘connect’ with so many people at the same time

Until not so many years ago, people only shared our time with the closest friends, family members, and co-workers. If you wanted to talk to people outside of these groups, you had to call them on the phone or meet them to see each other physically. And the best of all is that when you saw someone they were ‘present’ at all times. Human relationships were real and of higher quality.

That is why before, people valued time more than now. Therefore, the time that was given to other people was of quality. In these circumstances, when time passed and you did not know about someone, it was clear that that person had no real interest in being part of your life, and nothing happened. Life makes people separate, some leave your life and others stay.

Today connecting with others is too easy

Social networks, emails, text messages … allow us to connect with hundreds of people instantly, even if they are on the other side of the world. But it is not only possible to connect with one person, it is possible to connect with several people at the same time thanks to social media groups, chat groups, etc. If you do not speak directly with a person, you look at their social networks to know what they are doing, even if the other person does not know that you have been interested in knowing about him or her.

However, quick connections tend to be superficial. How many people on your social networks do you not see in person or even know? Even if you have no real connection with these people, you know everything or almost everything about their life (at least what they show on their social networks). Instead of releasing people naturally on the path of your life, you start to have too many … And this in the end, is an unnecessary burden.

Connect less, but more deeply

Quality is definitely more important than quantity when it comes to relationships. If you have a lot of interpersonal relationships, both physical and virtual, what is clear is that this means that most of those relationships will be empty connections, they will be meaningless relationships in your life. What is necessary to be happy is to really connect with the people around you, with those who really matter to you and nothing else.

Until a few years ago, people spent 80 percent of their time on the people who really mattered to them, now this percentage is dedicated to doing it with mobile … It is a big difference!

Filter the relationships; not everyone deserves your time

It is not cruel, it is a necessity. It’s time to start filtering your friends and letting only those people who are really important to you stay in your life. You will have to be honest with yourself and really think about which people are the ones who contribute to your life and those who do not contribute anything to you. If you suddenly start to see less of these people and they ask you if something is wrong with you, tell them the truth: nothing is wrong with you, you are simply changing the priorities in your life.

Start ordering your relationships right now. Get rid of relationships that you waste time and energy with and that are nothing to you. Time is the most precious commodity for this reason, start putting effort into the really important connections in your life.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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