Human beings are sociable by nature, that is, we like living with other people and being part of a group more than living alone. For this reason, when we are living with more people, it is normal for friction to be generated between us , due to the needs, desires and objectives of each one, since as individuals we also have different ideals and wills, which we will try to please in order to find our idea of ​​happiness.

Therefore, it is completely normal to feel envy in some moments of our lives . Sometimes this envy will be caused by people we hold in high esteem, but in other cases it will be caused by others who we may not like so well. Be that as it may, we must try that this feeling does not cause us too much damage, for our own well-being. If we let negative thoughts dominate our mind, we are more likely to feel sad or angry, far from achieving our own goals in order to be happy and avoid being envious of others.

However, it is believed that there is the so-called healthy envy , which is a feeling similar to that of traditional envy, but that does not cause as much pain or negative thoughts in the person who suffers it. Normally, healthy envy is caused by something good that happens to someone we love and that is why we would like to be in their place , although we do not mind that it is happening to him or her. To understand well what healthy envy is or if it really exists and there is nothing healthy about feeling envy, discover what this concept can mean and how you can live feeling admiration for others without this becoming a negative thought that makes you suffer or prevent you from finding the happiness you deserve.

What is envy

The Envy is a feeling of anger or sadness that a person feels when he sees another gets or has what it craves and he or she has failed to have live or feel. Thus, it is a negative feeling, which causes pain in the person who suffers it and generates even more hatred and anger. Instead of causing positive thoughts, envy generates more anger and prevents the person who feels it from feeling happy or happy.

Therefore, it is better to avoid suffering from envy as much as possible.. If you want something, do not hesitate to go for it and look for the best way to get it. Do not compare yourself with others or expect to achieve it at the same time, each one has a different way of doing things and what you want may come to you in one way or another sooner or later. Just avoid falling into extreme competition and don’t do things comparing yourself to others. Envy can be a very bad companion and will make you feel angry and grumpy. You must do things for yourself and not thinking about what the other person has, since each of us has his own problems and fights his own battles, so we must focus on achieving our own goals without comparing ourselves with others and being happy and try to make those around us happy.

What is the so-called healthy envy

It is believed that healthy envy would be the feeling that a person has when the other achieves something that they would also like, but without generating in this case a feeling of sadness or anger . Thus, it would be rather comparable to admiration, since one is happy for the fact that the other person has what they deserve and would also like for himself, in this case being aware that he has to fight for it and that will come to you in due time.

So, we could qualify this feeling more as admiration or happiness towards the people you love, rather than envy . The word envy has negative connotations that do not apply in this context, since you do nothing but rejoice for the good that happens to others and, although you would like it to happen to you too, this thought does not prevent you from realizing your day to day normally and continue to be happy. This admiration, as long as it is not extreme, is a much healthier feeling that will allow you to continue fighting for what you want, to achieve it as well as this person has done and to continue with your own goals, avoiding comparing yourself with others and respecting them. forever.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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