When your partner is unemployed it is possible that you are going through difficult times. Unemployment is an uncertain and scary time in someone’s life, and when your partner comes home and announces that they have lost their job, it is difficult for both of you. When your partner is unemployed, there are many things that go through your head, and worries about starting a job search and contributing to the unemployment rate can wear down your relationship quite quickly. 

But there are some ways you can learn how to be a better partner in these difficult times. The first thing you have to do is not to panic. There are many things that go through a person’s mind when they lose their job, but their partners may not realize it. Perhaps a person is addicted to work and they feel that it is their responsibility to be a good provider in their family so that nothing is lacking.

Many of these people also think that their jobs are part of their identity, and they wear it with pride. When they lose their job, it can be like losing their sense of purpose in family and in society. It is difficult for a person to remain calm and positive in this situation, especially if you believe that you are responsible for everything that happens in the family , at least financially. This is why your partner’s unemployment can actually be a scary situation, and may need to be handled delicately.

Don’t be critical when I break the news to you

When your partner tells you the bad news that they have lost their job, you may feel a certain shock to know what will happen in the future. You can even say hurtful words because you weren’t prepared to hear that kind of news. When it comes to finding out that your partner is unemployed, consider their feelings before yours.  You must be supportive and understand what is happening and how scary it is for your partner to suddenly feel lost without a purpose.

Keep supporting him

People who are unemployed often have to fight stereotypes that they are vague or invalid. Unemployment has a major negative impact on self-esteem, feelings of adequacy, and emotional health. Assuming this is not a chronic unemployment problem, your partner’s work ethic is probably not the problem.

Due to this negative stereotype, your partner can often feel depressed and miserable about not having a job. Finding a job again can be difficult … What you need to do as your partner is sympathize with the situation, support it and believe in it.  When he sees your confidence, he will feel more encouraged, motivated and optimistic to find a new job, even if it doesn’t happen right away. It can be very difficult to see your partner struggling with unemployment and finding a job, but with your help and understanding, you can overcome these challenges together.

Help him instead of demanding that he find a job as soon as possible

If your partner has been unemployed for a long time, you may think that demanding that they find a new job immediately or make a career change would motivate or help them. However, adding pressure on your partner doesn’t help, and depending on how much pressure you are applying, it can make you desperate to find another job.

People who struggle with the loss of their identity when they lose their jobs can lead to high levels of stress, depression, or physical ailments. So adding pressure will not be a good idea. If you’re concerned about the situation, it’s best to offer help finding a job, or maybe spend some time posting resumes for him or talking to people who might have a chance at his job. You can also ask if they need help updating their resume or creating a cover letter.

Finding a new job can be difficult, and make your partner feel that you are there to help could mean a lot. The key here is to ask him first if he needs your help. You may have your own strategy and prefer to do things alone and in your own way. If you feel that the situation needs intervention, talk to your partner and create a joint action plan.

Evaluate the budget during your time of unemployment

One way to show your partner that you support them is by managing your household finances well while they are unemployed. Show that you are willing to make sacrifices during the “stormy” days of job hunting. Take a look at the family budget and see where you can cut expenses. This will take the pressure off both of you while you are looking for work.

Have an active role at home

When your partner loses his job, he will spend more time at home and it is necessary for him to do other things at home to be active, in addition to that it is always necessary to do chores . In order to regain a sense of control for both of you, help your partner reestablish a pattern at home with new tasks that you can cover until you find a new job.

Being unemployed can make your partner feel like they’ve lost their worth, so let them know that you still need them. He can help with housework more often, make dinner, or maybe spend more time together with the kids and with you too. Thank him for doing things well. Not only will this make you feel like you still have value, it will also hold you accountable, helping to keep you motivated.

Focus on the positive

Both you and your partner should try to practice thinking that being unemployed is only temporary and is a manageable situation. Almost everyone has experienced the situation where they are unemployed and rejected by companies. Make him understand that it is all part of the process and that he just needs to submit more job applications and that there are more job opportunities available. Help him keep a healthy mental outlook.

It can be very difficult to see your partner struggling with unemployment and finding a job, but with your help and understanding , you can overcome these challenges together and emerge stronger than ever from these difficult times.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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