There are professions, jobs, that are extremely undervalued; as a general rule, they are all those who, on a social level, have been associated with women . That is, those that are directly related to care activities: cleaning the home, raising children, caring for the sick or elderly, cooking … All these jobs involve a responsibility that is not taken in It counts, because it has always been considered to be “women’s” and, like everything “feminine”, it has been underestimated.

However, being a homemaker is a full-time job, and it can generate very important stressful situations. It is not paid (although it sometimes should), but it demands much more than other professions that do have a lot of prestige. Because a housewife has to literally be able to run a house on her own , with all that that implies. Perhaps it is the ignorance that pushes many to consider that it is not a real responsibility, or that there is no stress after these tasks, but anyone who has had to work as a housewife (or housekeeper; they are a minority, but they are there) knows it perfectly.

You have to make this type of work visible, show the world what is really behind everything that a housewife does . Because only in this way can you eradicate that erroneous thought that it is not a job in itself, and that it does not entail high doses of stress.

Responsibility taken to the extreme

Let’s think about the work that those who take care of the house do: they not only have to clean, despite the fact that this is what they usually think about most, but they must also take care of everything related to the kitchen and the care of the home . That is, they must buy weekly (or monthly) to always have the refrigerator full , taking care of knowing what each member of the family eats so that nothing is ever missing, because the housewife knows perfectly that if something is missing, responsibility They will blame it on her. In addition, you must always be aware that the meals that are being made are different, and are adapted to the tastes of each one.

As if this were not a small responsibility, at the moment in which there is a stressful situation in the family nucleus , the one who will end up receiving all the possible bad manners, or answers, will be the housewife. For example: when children have exams and are worried about them, they will end up paying for it with the person who takes care of the house, because he will be the one they turn to for whatever they need. It is not only that they can speak badly at any time, but also that they will ask what they consider convenient; and although it may not seem like it, there are children who are real tyrants.

To this must be added that, although the housewife does not have a paid job and, therefore, does not have economic autonomy, she must carry the responsibility of managing household accounts on her shoulders . And this can be stressful! Because when there is not enough money to do the shopping and you have to do almost juggling to make ends meet, all this is done by the housewife at her own risk.

And nobody appreciates it

Although without a doubt what ends up causing more stress in any housewife is that absolutely no one appreciates the work she does, quite the opposite . You are required to give your all, to be always available; She does not have vacations or rest, because there are those who consider this to be an obligation instead of a job, she does not have moments to herself throughout the day … And nobody thanks her for everything she does! If you are housewives, surely you have suffered all this on your own skin. And more than once you will have wanted to be able to disconnect from everything, from any activity related to the home, and take a break. It is completely logical and normal, and it does not imply that you do not love your family, but you are a person as well as being a mother or a wife!

Think about your mental health , your stability and your happiness, and disconnect from time to time from all the stress that being a homemaker can entail. It will be great for you! 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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