There are people who when they think of ‘limits’, they actually believe that it is a brusque and even aggressive way of distancing themselves from others , but in reality, it is the opposite. Setting healthy boundaries will bring you closer to people on an emotional level in a balanced type of relationship.
Boundaries in relationships is when you draw the imaginary line with people. They are where some end and where others begin or how close you allow people to be with you, on an emotional level . Boundaries are a measure of relationship health and can cause stress if boundaries are unclear, confusing, or simply not set.
Setting limits controls your relationship stress
When you maintain healthy boundaries with others, you will keep relational stress at bay and also, you will feel better in your social relationships and with your environment in general. All this will allow you to feel the people who are more ‘close’ to you on an emotional level, because they respect your limits and your being.
Keep the balance
If you don’t set limits on what you say (yes and no) you will tend to take on more responsibilities than you feel comfortable with, just to please others. This will add stress to your life since you will be busier than you need to be for your comfort level. If you don’t respect your own limits, why do others have to? Setting healthy limits helps you maintain the correct balance in your schedules and in your life.
Keep a level of conflict to a minimum
When you say ‘yes’ to things that you prefer to say ‘no’ you will feel resentful of yourself for a while. You may not realize that you have to do with your busy schedule, while you may also get mad at yourself for allowing this to happen.
Whatever your perceptions, you should know that you feel stressed and that feeling bothers you, so it is better to prevent it from happening by learning to say ‘no’ that we feel stressed and that that feeling bothers us.
If you feel resentful and frustrated by what is happening to you, direct these feelings towards the people who are pushing your limits, you can end up damaging the relationships that you intend to strengthen just by not setting limits. A conflict with people can cause a lot of stress , so you must maintain healthy boundaries that allow others to know how far they can go with you and thus avoid additional conflicts due to resentments or negative feelings about having poor limits.
Setting boundaries promotes personal closeness
It’s worth mentioning that a common misperception about personal boundaries is that keeping everyone in our lives at a distance is the same as having strong, healthy boundaries.
In fact, allowing others to get close to us, without overwhelming us, is the true goal of setting limits; healthy boundaries allow us to have closer relationships that respect the needs of everyone involved. Most of us have some people in our life who require a different kind of response, and they actually need to keep their distance (or further away) because they don’t respect the limits we set, but most people can be allowed to get close. to us without stepping on our feet, if we let them know where we are positioned.
Setting healthy boundaries in relationships is a key skill in managing relationship stress. It is something that you can do for yourself and for the people that you are close to and that you love. If setting limits isn’t something you’re comfortable with, there’s a lot you can do to develop a comfort level with this skill … and it starts with practice!