Self-love is the best love there is … and the most important. If you have self-love you can love others from the heart, if not, it is possible that your love becomes something more toxic than real. Learning to love and prove yourself is one of the hardest things to do, but most necessary.

We all want to be loved and feel accepted, but many times, we think that means that we should seek that love in other people. When you seek love from external sources, you are allowing it to be taken from you … which can make you feel empty and broken inside when that happens. In this sense, it is essential to look for love within us.

Love yourself

Loving yourself takes time and having the ability to put yourself in priority over everything else, focusing on your wants and needs. Although it may seem selfish at first , after a while, you will realize that before you can truly take care of others, you must first take care of yourself. This could include participating in activities that make you happy or spending time alone with your thoughts. You could even practice saying positive affirmations or reading phrases that make you feel better.

When you love yourself, you will have a more fulfilling life as you feel good about your circumstances and your ability to change them at any time. By doing so, you can spread that positivity with the people around you and encourage them to also have love in themselves. You will realize that there are no limits to what you can achieve if you set your mind to it and you will make healthy decisions that will guarantee you the achievement of your goals.

You will have a happier life

When you love yourself you will learn that your happiness does not depend on others, only on yourself. You won’t mind spending time alone and you will feel comfortable in your life right now. As a result, you are able to genuinely love other people and be happy about their successes without feeling jealous or envious.  The more satisfied you are with yourself, the better others will accept you.

There is no “right” way to love yourself more. All you have to do is make an active effort to do it and, from there, find the way that suits you best. It is not the “how” that matters, but the “why”.

Why self love is the best kind of love

Here we are going to explain some reasons why self-love is the best and most important love in your life. Also, you will discover why you should love yourself first before focusing on loving other people.

Knowing yourself will help you say “no” when you should.

When you love yourself enough, it will be easier for you to say no to people and things that do not balance with your values. You realize that your time is valuable and that it is better spent doing the things you really want. You stand firm in all your decisions without fear of how others will respond.

You give yourself space to heal emotionally

Loving yourself makes you more open and aware of the emotional healing process . You come to accept the fact that you will be hurt in life, but that doesn’t mean the pain has to last forever. You acknowledge and accept your negative emotions and then release them so that you can move forward and fully enjoy life in the present.

You will communicate better with others

If you love yourself, you will learn to take the time you need to discover who you are and what you want in life. Once you know this, you can have conversations from the heart with anyone. You understand that being honest about how you feel and believe can improve your relationships with others. Also, if someone is not capable of being within your values ​​regarding personal relationships, you will remove them from your life without guilt.

You will not need the approval of others

When you really love yourself, you realize that confidence comes from within and that no one can make you feel as good or as happy as yourself. You are less likely to feel pressured to do things that you don’t like or like to do. You will worry less about the opinions of others and this will give you enough freedom to create your own path and focus on your true self.

You will feel more comfortable on “bad” days

You understand that every day will not be the best day, where you feel that you can conquer the world. However, instead of wallowing in self-pity, you accept the state of mind and physicality you are in. You find light even on bad days because you know that even in difficult times there is an opportunity to learn and grow.

You know that you can always count on you

When you count on yourself, you will be limiting the number of times you have to depend on others, which limits the number of times they can fail you. You learn to trust yourself and your ability to be great, even when there is no one else to help you or witness your hard work. You become your own emotional coaching , encouraging you to stay motivated and push boundaries as you pursue your dreams.

You will make healthier decisions

When you put yourself first, you will be able to make healthier decisions because they will improve your quality of life. You’ll eat better, sleep more and do more exercise because you realize how important your welfare physical and mental being essential to your success. When you look better, you feel better and when you feel better, you do better.

You will be able to forgive and forgive yourself

Holding onto grudges can really put you in a bad position. When you love yourself, you see the power to forgive yourself and others for things that have already happened and therefore you can no longer control. You are able to accept responsibility for your actions while freeing yourself from the guilt that you impose on yourself for the harm that others have caused you. By doing so, you release the control that others have over you. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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