When you reach a certain age and haven’t been in a real relationship yet, it can be tempting to throw in the towel . You spend so much time and effort finding the right person that it starts to feel like a full- time job, so why haven’t you found it yet? You are doing all the things that you are supposed to be doing. That includes swiping right on Tinder, going on dates, meeting all kinds of people, but you’re still not going anywhere.

All your efforts seem pointless and you are beginning to wonder if you should give up on love. Do not lose hope to get a real love relationship at some point in your life … We tell you why you should not lose hope.

No deadline

There is no deadline for a first real relationship. In life, everyone moves at different rates. Don’t compare your own progress to someone else’s. It doesn’t really matter if you’re in your twenties or thirties and haven’t been in a relationship yet or haven’t fallen in love. And it’s not something you should be ashamed of either … You may feel like your time is running out, and everyone around you seems to be in happy relationships, but it’s not true.

Now you are ready for love, but sometimes you have to wait, otherwise, if you rush to something, you will regret it. Just because you haven’t found it yet doesn’t mean you never will. It may sound like a cliché, but love can enter your life at any moment. There is never a right time or a wrong time to fall in love. It just happens … And then it’s up to you to decide what happens  next.

Love comes in all its forms

Romantic love isn’t the only kind of love you should be looking for. When you limit yourself to just one type of love and can’t find it, that’s when you start to feel disappointed. However, all kinds of love fill you up. The love of your friends, family, even your pets can make you feel good. You may not always realize it, but their love is just as beneficial as the love you would receive from a partner.

Love is not just about physical intimacy. It’s about taking care of someone and they care about you. It is important that you show that you care because this is how you form a connection. Don’t exclude them, you need them as much as they need you. You have to open your heart to them. How else will you know how to love? If you restrict your definition of love to romantic love, you will lose hope . Keep your mind and your heart open to what may happen.

Search is part of the journey

You are unlikely to find the love of your life after just one date. Sometimes the search can seem exhausting, but it is worth it. Many other good things can come out. As you search, you will be introduced to different types of people. These people will be from all kinds of backgrounds with unique personalities … you can learn things from each of them even if they don’t end up being your partner.

The more people you meet, the more you understand what you want from a partner and a relationship. You will also learn a lot about yourself; the type of person you are and what you are looking for. After a while, when the search doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, you may want to cancel it. While it is true that sometimes love finds you when you are not looking for it, you still have to work hard. You can’t just sit back and wait for everything to fall into place, as it’s not always that easy. Looking for love is not a waste of time. Every rejection, every “almost relationship” leads you to find the right person.

Think that the trip has to be rewarding … Do not get obsessed if you do not find your ideal partner, but enjoy the people who cross your path . Remember that when you least expect it, that special person will appear in your life, or you in his!

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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