The worst thing you can do to a person who screams is to scream too. When this happens the situation escalates when both people decide to scream. There are other reactions that can escalate in this situation and that should also be avoided such as: challenging what they say, acting defensive or criticizing the person during the confrontation.
If you want to deal with a person who is used to yelling in their interpersonal relationships, then do not miss these tips to achieve it. A person who screams constantly is toxic, so it is important that you know how to handle the situation before them when it becomes tense.
Keep calm and don’t feed their anger
Remember that two people do not argue if one does not want to. When a person is screaming, it is not you who has the problem … it is the person who is screaming. They do not have good coping skills or maybe they have other reasons why they yell, that you have nothing to do with it.
If you react, they will react to your reaction and things will keep getting worse. Stay calm , even if you are boiling inside. It is not worth feeding your screams as the situation will get worse and things are rarely resolved when two parties yell at each other. Problems are more likely to be resolved when calm tones are used with a calm demeanor . Be part of the solution, not the problem, by staying calm and using a calm, unhurried tone of voice.
Take a step back to analyze the situation
Before taking any action on the situation, take a mental pause to evaluate things. This will allow you to find out if the situation is worth continuing or leaving. If a casual acquaintance yells at you and you don’t care if you offend them by walking away from them, then by all means walk away.
You don’t have to submit to someone’s mistreatment and mistreatment if they are not important to your life … And if they are important, neither. If your boss is yelling at you and you know that walking away while your boss is yelling can cost you your job, you may want to think about waiting for him to finish and trying to speak slowly. It’s even worth getting out of the situation when you’re done yelling and tackling the problem at a calmer time.
Do not give in to the screams
If you give in to yelling to stop yelling, you agree to “agree” against your will just to make the tense situation end … or if you say “yes” when you really mean “no”, just to finish the toxic situation … then you’re doing a disservice to your sanity. This will only encourage the person yelling at you to do it more in the future to get their way. Avoid this method or you will find yourself involved in yelling a lot.
Redirect the screams
In most cases, when someone yells at you, your emotions are evoked and you feel the need to react. If you react with yelling, criticism, or other negative responses, the situation will escalate. You should do everything in your power to reflect your thoughts and feelings, so that you can address the real problem, which is the cry of the other.
Let the person know that you won’t accept being yelled at, regardless of the situation or problem. Say it courteously and calmly, and you are more likely to have a positive reaction, such as an apology or at least let them know that they are actually yelling in case they have not realized with anger that they are raising their voices. Some people do not even realize that they are screaming. So your next step is to ask for a break in communication with that person … Only when your emotions have calmed down as well, can you, if you want, have communication with them again.