We live in a society in which everything goes very fast . Fashions are constantly changing and technology is renewing itself so quickly that, to keep up to date with everything, we cannot get lost for a moment. In addition, when something no longer serves us, we can put it aside and buy one of these products again, since we find many different prices in the market and a great variety in which to choose.

Therefore, it is normal that this way of treating the objects that surround us or shaping our thoughts is the same dynamic that we use for our personal relationships. That is to say, when someone stops absorbing us as much as they did at the beginning, especially in a sentimental relationship, we may tend to leave that person and want to find another who makes us feel the emotion of the beginning. For this reason, perhaps we do not fight so much for relationships or for having anything stable, because coexistence or friction make feelings change and not everything is as exciting as at the beginning.

After a bad experience, it is also possible that more than one does not want to have a stable relationship again . When your heart is broken you have a tendency to put on a breastplate, in order to prevent them from hurting you again in the future. This usually happens to everyone and, little by little, as you get older, this breastplate becomes bigger and stronger, so opening your heart to a person and trusting again is increasingly difficult.

For this reason, there are many people with fear of commitment in today’s society . Both men and women seek a certain job stability, difficult to find in our days, which makes finding a stable partner not one of their priorities, as it could have been for previous generations. Young people today have other preferences, especially because their lives are not so organized, and they can change jobs from one day to the next or they do not have enough money to leave their parents’ home or overcome the day-to-day formalities of an adult in the past. This can make them feel much more childish and unable to mature in the same way, causing their romantic relationships to suffer.

Thus, commitment may become big words and something that is not yet understood by the youngest and those who are not so much, since it can mean the formalization of a relationship before others and with legal effects, something that can even to worry them, because perhaps they do not know what they really expect from life and the future.

I think I am afraid of commitment. Can you get over it with your partner?

Regardless of how old you are, you may be afraid of commitment. This means that it is likely that you can have a stable relationship, but that you do not want to formalize it for fear of what may happen next. Perhaps you think that by getting more serious in front of this couple, the magic between the two of you can get lost or you lose that freedom that not having anything confirmed gives you. However, the person you love may have the need or desire to formalize the relationship, so it will be at that moment that you should consider your fear of commitment, where it comes from and how you could overcome it .

Your fear of commitment is likely caused by bad love experiences in the past. You may be afraid that these situations could happen again, which would deeply damage you. In addition, the fact of consolidating the relationship would complicate things more, so you should rethink if you really want to be with this person. If so, it is more likely that you will have fewer doubts when facing the commitment, because you will be more sure of your actions and you will be able to overcome your fears.

However, if you are not sure if you want to formalize your relationship with this person, it is because you may question your feelings, which could mean that they are not the right person to commit to. Therefore, the fear of commitment can be overcome, consulting with a mental health professional such as a psychologist in the most extreme cases, but we must bear in mind that the stability of the couple is a key factor for the person with fear The commitment may come to consider if he could put aside and overcome this fear in order to consolidate the relationship with the person he loves. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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