Sometimes you need to distance yourself from the emotional demands of people and society to be okay, and that’s not bad. People associate the term ’emotional detachment’ with two different things. One definition is “emotionally unavailable” and is used when a person avoids something that causes strong emotions such as anxiety . The kind of emotional detachment we’re going to talk about today is healthy and desirable. In simple terms, emotional detachment is about distancing yourself from the drama. Unfortunately, drama often reaches you everywhere in the form of a family, with whom you are trapped. It is impossible to physically distance yourself, but you can avoid being absorbed. To be absorbed by the drama is to allow the emotions to take control of your life and your person.

When emotions drive your decisions

When emotions drive your decisions , you are likely to respond ineffectively. We are not just talking about the heat of the moment, but after the moment has passed.  Letting unpleasant experiences bother you too much is dangerous. You may have bad habits to temporarily escape pain, such as addiction. People commonly find themselves on a roller coaster where they succumb to negative emotions in exchange for periodic release, say through drinking. Life gives everyone problems. Don’t take it personally. Instead, focus on the positive things and try not to worry so much. It’s as easy as this! Choosing or not emotional detachment as a lifestyle is more of a personal choice than anything else. You decide how you want to live your life.

It is simple but not easy

Having emotional detachment is accepting things as they are. Past trauma, people and the universe. This is usually a way of dividing self-help into logical steps and goals. Acceptance is simple, but terribly difficult. It is a decision you make for survival, for self-preservation. It’s your choice. Another component of emotional detachment is never giving yourself completely to anyone. This may seem unappealing to romantics. Although not fit for a heartbreaking romance novel, it is necessary in the real world. If you put your whole being at the disposal of others, there are people who will take advantage and you will be left with nothing. The only beings to whom you must give yourself body and soul because they need it to survive and develop. They are your children.This would be in the case that you decide to say have children.

Emotional detachment requires concentration and exploration. You should focus on what you have control over , as acceptance does not mean compliance. If you haven’t yet found a satisfying and lucrative way to contribute, then you need to explore. Explore different people, communities, and activities until you find something that works. Then focus on making a difference. This applies to family, social and professional life. Just like you would at work, focus on the things you have control over. You may need to re-evaluate this and learn to compromise. Sharing blood or a roof with someone does not give you control over their actions

Will you become numb?

No, but people can perceive you that way.  First of all, deciding to have emotional detachment does not mean being emotionally numb. It is in everyone’s best interest to detach yourself from negative emotions , both your own and other people’s. In any case, life would be meaningless without emotions, especially pleasant ones. Even if you learn to detach yourself from negative emotions, you won’t always be surrounded by people who do. When you react differently to another person, it can be difficult for them to understand.

Your apparent indifference, which is, in fact, calm and steady, could be interpreted as insensitivity. This can be painful for others, but in the long run it will be the best path for you if you do not want to suffer for others.

Achieving inner peace and solidarity

Distancing yourself from your emotions is not a guarantee of happiness. Almost nothing is. An effective way to experience inner peace, emotional detachment is the closest thing to happiness. By finding peace within yourself, you avoid harmful habits that would only make emotional detachment more difficult . Binge eating, alcoholism, or even chronic pessimism are alternatives, and just to mention the unhealthy ways people find peace.

These types of release from emotional pain are temporary and contradictory, as they harm your physical and mental health . The more you can detach yourself from the emotional demands of life, the stronger you will be. By analyzing and keeping your emotions in check, you will actually feel more comfortable experiencing all the emotions and being around those who need you.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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