With each relationship or friendship we learn new things about ourselves , both good things and others that we do not like so much. We are all fully aware that relationships can be complicated and that there is no such thing as perfection in these areas. Even with this prior knowledge, we tend to submit again. We know that we are likely to be hurt again, but we are willing to do it anyway.
This is because we know more and more about ourselves and what we want out of relationships with each failed relationship. Every relationship that did not end in marriage was a failure, as the definition says . But is this so? There is nothing wrong with a relationship that does not end well at all because they always teach us very important things: life lessons .
Here are some life lessons that are learned from past relationships and that will undoubtedly be part of you forever. Do not regret when a relationship ends, because it will always have taught you something new . If you don’t know what we mean, keep reading.
I’m not perfect and that’s okay
It’s okay not to be perfect . Anyone who enters a relationship hoping that nothing will ever go wrong is out of touch with reality . Perfection does not exist, it is as simple as that. Interlace two people who are not perfect and something will happen. There will be fights, and yes, sometimes it will be your fault. You have to learn to accept that you are wrong and apologize for what you have done … even if it is hard for you.
Accept the fact that you are not perfect and never will be because perfection does not exist. We all have our quirks about us that some people just don’t like. These quirks can also be the things someone else likes the most. You don’t have to be perfect for a person to love you. You just have to find a person who appreciates everything about you, the good and the bad .
If you’re not ready, don’t be in a relationship
It can be extremely difficult to know whether or not you are ready for a relationship (both as a couple and as a friendship). Most of the time people think they are ready for a relationship solely because they want to be in a relationship. Being ready for one and really wanting it doesn’t always correlate.
Usually when you’re ready for a relationship, it happens when you’re not even looking for one . Even then sometimes that person may not have come at a good time for you. Being in one requires more than being mature enough to handle it, it also means that you are in a good place in your life and you can add a relationship to it. It is not fair to the other person if you enter into a relationship with them if you are not going to be able to give them the right amount of time and energy. You don’t want someone to do that to you, so you must understand that you can’t do that to someone else . There is no need to start a relationship with a person if you have some idea in mind that it is not going to work out.
Sometimes things just don’t work out
Just because you have time doesn’t mean you are ready for a relationship . Even if you’re ready for one and things aren’t how you thought they were going to be, that’s fine. You don’t have to spend the rest of your life with the person you are with now if you don’t want it to be that way. You have no obligation to anyone to stay if they no longer make you happy. There is nothing wrong with finishing something that no longer works for you.
Not every date you have has to lead to a relationship. Sometimes you think that you will get along very well with someone, only to spend time with that person and discover that you have nothing in common and that it is uncomfortable. He doesn’t say anything bad about you if you break up with someone. You have to focus on what makes you happy . It’s not the end of the world because something ended , that maybe it really needed to end.
Not everyone is going to hurt you
Most of us have been hurt in some relationship. I think a lot of people have that person to think about from time to time and feel something about it. No matter what that person did, there is still fear that someone else will do the same. The way you used to fight with your ex should not be the way you try to talk to the person you are with now, and vice versa. Not everyone is there to hurt you. What you have to learn to do is not constantly go after people who are like your exs through bad times. You will become emotionally unstable having the same fights with different people … it’s not worth it .
We all have things to learn
Communication is essential for any type of relationship . You have to express to your partner how you feel at all times, the same with family or friends . Nobody has a crystal ball to know how you feel in every moment of your life. It is necessary to express your emotions with empathy and assertiveness, express your discomfort with respect.
For most people , when they enter a healthy relationship after years of terrible relationships, they don’t know how to handle it. With each new person you start dating, you both try to figure out how to incorporate each other into your lives. It’s one of the hardest things to do sometimes because you’re basically sharing your life with someone right now. And that can be scary.
When you accept that no one is perfect and that we all continue to learn about ourselves and the people we love around us, you start to be happier. It is very important to discover what you liked and what you did not like about certain relationships. You shouldn’t stay with someone if you are unhappy, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to finish something because it is going “too well” and think that something will go wrong soon . It is not healthy.
The relationships , good or bad, will teach you a lot about yourself and what you want (and do not want) life. It can be scary, but it can also be great when it turns out right. You will always keep learning about yourself and about others.