Everyone wants to be successful in life, it is normal! Who wants to live a mediocre life that contributes nothing? Maybe you try everything you create but there comes a time when you do not see those fruits that you should have in order to be successful in your life. Without realizing it, you can have subtle behaviors that make you stay in your comfort zone without being able to move forward.

If you think that you may be sabotaging your own success without realizing that it is really happening, now is the time for you to focus and realize what is happening. Thus, with these tips you can be more successful and stop sabotaging yourself.

You complain about the opportunities

Maybe your boss has given you projects to advance but you only complain that you have more work. If your first reaction when asked to take on new responsibilities is to complain about that extra work you have to do, like more work hours or extra effort with no additional compensation and no praise for your effort … then you probably need to reconsider your perspective. .

Maybe you are really overworked and this is a turning point, but it is also likely that you just need to encourage your positive attitude so that everything changes for the better in your life. It will depend on you and how you see what you should do and how you do it whether you move towards success or get stuck where you are right now.

You don’t allow yourself to have a sense of humor

The sense of humor is key. It is important that you realize when you have negative thoughts and change your focus. Channel negative energy to turn those unexpected new projects into positive opportunities . Take a leadership position in your life, document the successes of the project, and highlight them at your next life review.

If something goes wrong, do not sink, do not think that you are not capable. Draw strength and continue because if you encourage your perseverance you will realize that you can achieve almost anything. You just have to focus on what really fills you up, motivates you and makes you feel good.

You are too inflexible

The idea of ​​staying on your way is now outdated – no one can approach a job as a single-task position.  Flexibility and resilience are key skills that are increasingly sought after and needed. 

In a few years you will need to have other skills to be able to advance so it is important that you always focus on being able to tolerate change and uncertainty well. If you are too inflexible you will not be able to move forward and then you will get stuck sabotaging your own success.

You can’t stand the uncertainty

You have to start getting along better with uncertainty in order to be successful. Although it is not easy you need to learn to be more fluid with life and this takes time, practice and experience … especially with feeling uncomfortable at first with new challenges or when you are learning new skills.

Confidence comes through experience, which means creating opportunities for small sustainable changes and therefore small gains. Try to make small breakthroughs with people you trust. Many problems can be solved with open and honest communication about work style and needs. Remember that there are rewards for those with great critical judgment, as long as they are not victims of inflexibility.

Embrace healthy competition

Healthy competition can be great in the workforce – it energizes some, drives others to achieve, and creates a dynamic and energetic environment. But a nasty competitive streak can also quickly turn things and people toxic. You need to want to be better and compete, but not want to undermine the integrity of other people. We all have the right to try to move forward and be successful.

You are jealous of the success of others

If the successes of others make you jealous to the point of distraction, try refocusing your goals and evaluating your own contributions objectively. How is your attitude contributing to the environment and to your life in general? Can you feel good about your goals despite what others are doing around you or what they achieve and you are not? Evaluate if the current work environment is right for you or if it might be better to switch to another job to get the best out of you.

Be a good professional

To be a good professional you must be responsible with what you do and with the people around you. Do not be late for work, go to meetings on time and contribute everything you can, have casual conversations with people related to your work, be nice to the people around you.

In addition, to be responsible in your work you do not need to work overtime or stay all night to finish a project. You have your schedule, you simply have to be efficient in the work hours that you have assigned. When you are efficient in your work, success will follow.

Also, it is important to bear in mind that in addition to being professional, you also have your life and for this reason it is necessary that you know how to balance it well. While it is true that you may have certain family problems from time to time, try to balance things so that your personal problems do not continually affect your work life.

Think about the why of your work

You should ask yourself some questions about the “purpose” and the “why” of your work. The questions are meant to help you “re-evaluate and perhaps re-frame or reconnect with your responsibilities.”

If you consistently miss deadlines, talk to your supervisor about managing expectations.  Maybe the timelines were too demanding when they were created, or maybe you need help prioritizing and managing your time. In general, being open and honest with your boss or yourself will lead to fewer surprises and better communication for everyone.

Keep your personal life private

It is never a good idea to allow your coworkers to follow the details of your personal life either in person or through social media. Being too open with your personal life can do you more harm than good. Not to mention, your posts can never go away and have the potential to follow you for a lifetime. An easy way to control who sees (and who doesn’t see) your Facebook posts with settings. In this way, you can keep your personal life separate from your work life … and be on your way to success! 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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