I wish life were so simple as to be able to live it without fear or without uncertainties … but then it would not be funny! Sudden or unexpected changes can make us feel stronger and can even be learned as things happen to have the resilience to live life even more intensely. Change is going to happen, regardless of how you try to control things . Although you can’t always control these unexpected changes, you can always control how you react and how you manage to move forward.

Change is difficult but necessary because without change , we would never grow and learn.  However necessary it may be, change can be challenging, even more so when change is unexpected and / or unwanted. Change can be an emotional problem at first, but with these tips and tricks, you’ll be able to surf through the waters of change with expert precision.

Accept emotions

Acceptance is a complicated subject, but one worth talking about. The ability to overcome something and accept it is in all of us. Sometimes the ability to accept something is hampered and depends on the situation; other times, it’s up to you. Whatever your reaction to the change, what you can do is accept how you feel about the change. Don’t try to convince yourself not to be angry or sad, hurt or upset.  If you do that, the emotions will build up and come out later.

Face it when it happens. These are normal reactions and you have a right to feel the way you do. Accepting unexpected changes may not be possible right away; It can take a long time to learn to accept some changes, so in the meantime, just accept your reaction to the situation. Sad, angry or upset, whatever the emotion, don’t fight it.

Keep your feet on the ground

Connecting to the earth is a way to stay connected to the present. It may seem counter-intuitive to focus on the present when it is so stressful, but it is a way to strengthen yourself to face the present and the challenges that lie ahead. There are many different grounding exercises that can help in this type of situation. Breathing exercises, being one of the best, is a basic technique that you can take with you everywhere.

Being able to land is invaluable. Grounding is a tool you can take anywhere and practice anywhere. Think of yourself as a boat, life as the ocean, and grounding techniques as the anchor. Sensory grounding is another technique that can help you and focuses on connecting through your senses. For example: focus on feeling your sweater against your skin or the grass under your feet.

The cognitive foundation is about focusing on who you are, where you are, where you come from … you can go on and on.  Basically, cognitive foundation is about focusing on yourself in the present. It’s good to do it while you’re under stress , as it can help you focus on the present moment.

Do not neglect

When you find yourself caught in the undercurrent of life, don’t be careless. Taking care of yourself may be the last thing on your mind, but do it anyway. It is something that is easily overlooked. You can’t take care of others, or deal with stress well, if you are not taking care of yourself. In difficult times, it is easy to forget to take care of ourselves, but it is something you should never forget.  Take care, you owe yourself a lot. Find some self-care rituals that resonate with you and do them.

Escape for a while

Similarly, don’t forget to breathe every now and then.  By that I mean that from time to time you need to drop anything that stresses you or makes you angry or sad. For the sake of your mental health, don’t spend 24/7 upset, hurt, angry, and stressed out because of this unexpected change. Give yourself time to breathe every now and then. Give your mind a break .

You can do this by reading a book, watching your favorite TV show, or listening to good music. Get out of the house with a friend and give yourself permission to blurt out whatever is bothering you, if only for a moment. This is not easy, but it is possible to find bright spots in the dark .

Give you time

Time will change the things that need to be changed, and the bad times will go away.  Have faith that no matter what comes your way, you can handle it with courage and grace.  You should know that things will improve as long as you really want everything to improve.

Negative and unexpected changes are more difficult to accept compared to positive or expected changes. What you should do is feel how you feel and give yourself time . Time heals all. Having to move, get fired from your job, or have your partner leave you are small things in the grand scheme of life. As much as it may hurt, it won’t hurt forever. So, be patient with yourself. Within all difficulties lies the possibility: it is your job to find it.

Accepting that change is going to happen, regardless of what you are trying to control, is an exercise of willpower , and many times, a change, such as the end of a relationship, a job, or a sudden movement can bring countless problems with it. Although you can’t always control those unexpected changes, the only thing you can always control is how you react and how you manage to make things better.

For this reason, never lose hope or the strength to fight to find better times, because if you really wait for it, they will come. Never lower your arms when adversity approaches you because it takes courage and perseverance to achieve good goals in life. Don’t worry if things go wrong sometimes, they can go better if you fight for it. Are you ready to experience those unexpected changes? 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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