When you smile, all your innate beauty is seen in you. There are those who feel embarrassed when you remember mistakes they have made, even after a long time. Although social mistakes and well-intentioned mistakes are common and practically inevitable throughout life, many people punish themselves for the shameful things they did long ago. This can be a major source of stress, especially for those who experience some level of anxiety , particularly social anxiety.
When a person is able to laugh at shameful things they have done in the past, they can remove shame from memory and replace it with companionship or a good dose of humor. This can take the stress out of the lived experience and your memorial. For example, if you tell what happened to some friends and laugh about it, it will also be transformative for you.
Learning the skill of viewing memories in this way will allow you to be more forgiving of yourself and others as well. You can begin to react with less shame and a better sense of humor to the mistakes you make in the present. Laughing at what stresses you or embarrasses you is an innate skill for some, but it may be a learned skill for others. You can also improve the ability to do this, so it can become a habit and it is easier and more automatic. If you don’t know how to laugh at events, keep reading to get it.
Look for the absurd
What are the chances that something will go wrong? Because maybe if it can go wrong … it will! But if you already know … why stress? Laugh at what happens! And if you know that something can happen in a bad way, find ways to avoid it, and if it still goes wrong … then learn from it to improve in the future!
Read about other people’s lives
Reading humorous books about other people’s lives, about how they have lived stressful everyday situations and dealt with them with humor can greatly relieve your stress. This can provide you with a practice of self-acceptance. Really well-written books can frame an embarrassing mistake as a hilarious story that can help us feel better about our own mistakes.
Imagine your life as if it were a chapter in a series of laughter
Some of the best comedies have some of the most outlandish issues as part of the plot, but great comedy can also result from worldly challenges. This is good news because whatever you are up against (unless it’s a tragedy ), you can usually find some humor.
It helps to watch funny movies and shows or read funny books on a regular basis. This helps you maintain a cheerful frame of mind, but it also helps you have a frame of reference for how people can deal with stressful situations with a smile and a laugh. Imagine yourself facing the stressful situations you face as if they were a plot in one of your favorite shows or a chapter in a beloved book. Imagining how the characters you like might respond to this situation can help you find a more cheerful response as well, and it can at least help you put a smile on your lips more easily.
Talk to your friends about fun memories
Talk to your friends about funny memories that at the time they occurred might not have been so much fun … Talking with friends and finding social support when you are stressed is a tried and true coping strategy. If you find a friend to help you find humor in stressful situations … it will improve your life in all aspects. You will be better able to cope with difficult situations.
Laughter has the power to make you live longer and better in the present!