It seems that there is no point in being nice to people who have hurt you in some way … it is difficult to find reasons why you should not hold a grudge towards those people well they had consideration for you. Sometimes, people can say and do things that hurt you emotionally, without realizing it you can find yourself in the situation of wanting to take revenge by making them feel the same pain that they have caused you, but it is not worth it.

If you are a vindictive person or you become rude to that person who has hurt you, you will only feel worse and may even cause additional problems that could have been avoided by opting for another type of attitude. No matter how painful the situation is, if you are kind to others, you will always be one step above them. If you are still not convinced about this, do not miss the reasons why it is worth it to be nice to others, even if some have hurt you before.

Show that you are a good person

Although it is true that you do not have to prove anything to anyone, being kind to other people, and more to those who hurt you, will show them that in addition to being intelligent, you are a wonderful person. The people around you will see that you are strong and that you know how to deal intelligently with difficult situations.

Sometimes you may not find the right words to say to people who have hurt you. Try to be kinder to the people around you … even if you have been hurt many times, if you maintain this good attitude, you will inspire others to do the same.

You have a soft attitude

Another reason why it is a good idea to be kind to others and especially to those who have hurt you is that you can soften your attitude towards them. You can respond cruelly like they did to you, but that will only make the situation worse. On the other hand, being kind to them will make you feel less hated and therefore, live more calmly. It is better to feel sorry for those who hurt you since you probably have an unhappy life.

You won’t feel guilty

If you are kind to the people who have hurt you, you will not have to feel guilty afterwards. On the other hand, if you come or are rude to other people, you can end up feeling guilty. The best way to respond to cruelty is to smile and be nice to those who have hurt you.

You will feel good about yourself

When you are kind to people who have hurt you emotionally , you will feel good about yourself and know that you are better than that person. Being rude will not make you feel better, so it is better that you be a good example to others by being kind … respecting others, others will respect you.

You will surprise with your kindness

Others will be amazed at how kind you are to others. Your kindness will make them admit their mistake and they will apologize. Even if they don’t admit their mistake, your kindness will blow them away and leave you alone. Do not communicate with them, surround yourself with kind and positive people who make you happy.

Change rude behavior towards yourself

Being nice to people who have hurt you could change their rude behavior towards you. Your kindness may cause them to reconsider their actions. It is difficult to change someone’s behavior towards you, but you should at least try. Your kindness will make people who hurt you regret their behavior towards you.

They will speak well of you

When someone hurts you in front of others, being nice to them will not show others that you are weak . They will see that you are a wonderful person. They will definitely notice this personality trait and respect you more than ever. Also, the person who hurt you will notice your kindness too, whether they want it or not. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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