Love can seem confusing to you, and it’s normal. It is an abstract feeling that can be difficult to recognize. For many people, love is scary, difficult, and just hits you without your realizing it. That means that it can also be a surprise when your partner tells you that he loves you and you do not expect it. Although love is something magical, it can also be something that can be detected . Despite the idea that love is spontaneous, if you pay close attention , you can see that this is not always the case.

It is ideal to know the stages of falling in love to be if you or your partner are really in love … or not. People are his best critic and can know each other better than anyone, but also many of them are still not sure if they are falling in love or if what they feel is something else.

Although there are people who do realize when they are in love, there are others who do not realize it and the love for a person may be growing and who do not realize it at all. Are you in any of these stages?

Stage 1: physical attraction

Although this stage may seem like it’s not part of falling in love , it is. Even the early dating phases are crucial. After all, it’s the beginning of an exciting new chapter, so it does matter. Although people say not to judge a book by a cover, this is something everyone does. That does not mean that you are a bad person because you noticed how sexy and attractive your current partner is the first time you saw them.

This is natural.  Before meeting a person, texting or even talking to them, the first thing people notice is their appearance because it is what we see and show up first. So when you meet a person with potential to be your partner, you have to make sure that they are attractive to you. It is an important part of any relationship that appeals to you and you like the way it looks.

Stage 2: friends

You may think that you want to jump straight into dates. However, if you are looking for a relationship that is stronger and longer lasting, you need to be friends first. If you and your partner were friends before dating, or if you are currently in the friend phase even though you may say that you both want more, this is good.

This means that you are both taking the time to establish a correct foundation that allows you to communicate, establish a strong bond and be incredible friends and lovers later on. By not skipping the friends phase, you can have a fluid relationship, constantly growing, fun, exciting and real.

Stage 3: connection test

As you have, you will find out if you are compatible in terms of values, ideas, beliefs, mental frameworks and plans. If you don’t fit in well when testing emotional connection through deep conversations about anything, then your relationship won’t work.

Stage 4: the first official date

That’s right, it’s official now, you’re happy to hang out together as more than just friends. This is an important part of the stages of falling in love. After all, now that you are dating, you need to be able to be friends, communicate well, and also be a couple. What many people don’t realize is that first dates are ingrained in their heads, and also in those of their partners. That is, if it is a disaster, if you change because you are officially dating or if it does not work, it will always be remembered. If the first date is awkward, horrible, or boring, then this is not a love stage.

On the other hand, if you and your partner can make an effortless transition, talk, laugh and know how to have an incredible night, then this stage is a success.

Stage 5: get to know each other very well

As you continue to go out and spend time together, your relationship has obviously progressed in terms of sexual activity , and also through your connection and emotional bond. Both factors are normal and healthy. In fact, they are necessary if you are going to fall in love and have a happy and healthy relationship.

However, it is crucial to have a lot of deep conversations just so that you can really get to know him, and that your partner can get to know the real you. As you get to know each other, you will have to learn a lot more about each other. This will make you like each other more and you will always want to be together.

Stage 6: do everything together

Most couples do not want to be apart for long and try to do things together. This is a lot because it will help you to have a good sense of partner and it will give you quality time that will strengthen your relationship. Although there are some things that need to be done alone, and you may want some space at some points (which is healthy ) … you also want to spend time next to each other.

Stage 7: it’s bi-directional

Love is not something unidirectional, but it is bidirectional, it is given and received …. The stages of infatuation may be in the wrong order for some couples or they may be different. However, at some point in those stages, at least one of you will wonder if the other feels the feelings that you are beginning to feel. You have to make sure that the other part of the couple puts so much effort, care, time and energy into the relationship.

If this is not the case, it means that the relationship is not reciprocal, which could mean nothing, or it could mean that you are not yet so interested and attached as to be a healthy couple. You can resolve this through your body language , behavior, and even talking it over with your partner.

Stage 8: the magic words

Although writing it can be easy, saying “I love you” or “I love you” is not so easy to say it sincerely in oral language. Although if you have chemistry, connection, bond and strength as a couple, then it will be easier than you imagine. Even if you have gone through different stages, you have to make sure that the connection and the feelings continue to be over time.

After saying “I love you”, there are no guarantees that you will never fight again, that you will not have any obstacles in the way or that you will even change.  However, what is guaranteed is that they will always have each other and your love. Never take anything for granted and work together to make the relationship a success in both the short and long term.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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