Human beings are social by nature. We like to live in a group and have social relationships in order to be happy. For this reason, it is very important to know how to take care of the people who love you and surround you , in order to be able to enjoy their company, feeling comfortable and happy at all times. Knowing how to maintain these social relationships implies controlling certain emotions and knowing how to manage behaviors, so that conflicts can be avoided and coexistence is pleasant for everyone.

Education and coexistence

In the case of parents, the good education of their children will help them to become adults with whom it is possible to have social relationships easily in the future . The world can be hostile at times and you cannot always be happy with everyone, but it is up to you to know how to manage your emotions and solve problems with others, in order to have a good relationship with the majority of people. people possible.

However, it is impossible to have an excellent relationship with all those around us. There will always be someone who feels or thinks differently from you . In these cases, it is best to try to have a cordial relationship , without forcing that person to like you or for you to change your mind about them yourself. Simply accept that you will not always be able to like everyone and vice versa, but that you can have an educated relationship with that person, without harboring negative feelings that could harm you, something that will be essential if that person is part of your group. from friends , co-workers or family and you cannot avoid running into her on more than one occasion.

Make a good first impression

When we meet someone for the first time , unconsciously, we quickly form a mental image of what this person will be like, based on their physical features, their clothing and their way of speaking . It may remind us of another person we have met before or, perhaps inadvertently, we label it in one social group or another. All this will make our brain very quickly and involuntarily help us to determine at the moment if we like that person or not.

In the event that we believe that they are not to our liking, it is possible that, over time, we may change their minds, but they will have to make a greater effort to connect with us, since we have probably classified them as people we do not like. , for memories of others that may have hurt us in the past. Therefore, it is key not to try to label friends or define them by their class or social group . Each person is different, so we must try to get to know them better before we can determine if we like them, since on many occasions the opposite case can be given, that is, that we like them for the first impression and then prove to be not so good friend, partner or lover as it seemed to be at first.

So making a good impression is not entirely up to you. There is a physical factor that we cannot control, such as our features, but for example our clothing . If you want to make a good impression in a job interview, you may need to wear a wardrobe that is appropriate for that situation, but remember that with friends you should always be yourself. Do not adapt your clothes to the taste of others , because if you want them to be real friends, they must know you as you are, respecting your tastes and hobbies, as you would with them, so that you can feel comfortable and happy in company .

Maintain and care for healthy social relationships

If you want to have healthy social relationships with your friends, coworkers, partner or family, it is very important that you focus on being happy. If you transmit negative thoughts or judgments, it will be more difficult for you to live in society. Speaking badly of other people or making categorical value judgments , without trying to understand others or believing you have the absolute truth, can make others not like you. Remember that someone who speaks ill of another person when they are not present is very likely to do the same to you when you are not there.

When you meet someone for the first time, try to be interested in this person . Don’t be too pushy with the questions, but do let him talk and take an interest in him or her. If you do not know what to say and you leave long silences, the situation is likely to be uncomfortable and you will not like each other, but if you talk too much (especially about yourself) it is possible that the other person feels ignored , making it difficult for them to get a good impression over you.

If you want to maintain and take care of your social relationships, you must take care of your friends and make time for them. Also try to organize plans and not let others always do everything for you. A healthy friendship is a balanced one, in which you can talk about everything comfortably and you know that the other person will be unconditionally by your side when you need them, both in good times and in bad times. In this way you can get others to like you, accepting that nobody is perfect and that everyone likes you is impossible .

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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