When you first meet people, you usually trust your instincts and judgments. Instead, this is not always the best way to proceed as you may have some unrealistic judgments. It is necessary to know if that person deserves your trust or if, on the contrary, you should go with a lead before opening up completely.

Making a wrong judgment can be detrimental to you. It is not easy to learn to determine if someone is worthy of your trust. But if you know the right strategies, then it won’t be that complicated. Follow these tips to decide if you can trust a certain person or not.

Observe the person from different perspectives

You will have to learn to observe that particular person from different perspectives and also, in different situations. Don’t judge at first glance, because you won’t have time to form an accurate assessment of that person. So, observe the way that person behaves in different settings.

Analyze their behavior to see if it is consistent

People can show different sides of their personality depending on the situation they are in. A trustworthy person is more likely to show consistent and fairly similar behavior, because they have nothing to hide.

Take enough time to find out what it is like

It is true that you cannot judge a book by its cover, but it is exactly the same with people. You will have to spend a lot of time to be able to arrive at a fair evaluation of that person and to be able to determine if they deserve you or not.

Does that person trust others?

People who are easily distrustful of others are the same people you may not want to trust. This was suggested by a recent study on the behavior of online video game players. The study found that those who were happy to cooperate and trust other players were less likely to be untrustworthy. In other words, trust is a two-way street.

Do you know how he thinks?

You cannot get into anyone’s head, so it is difficult to understand 100% how a person thinks or acts. But one way to do this is to listen carefully to what they say. The words often betray because they show the true thoughts, you just have to be careful to identify it . Once you discover a person’s thought patterns , you can make a fair assessment of their trustworthiness.

Discover his past

Even if the person in front of you looks like an angel, what do you know about his past? The past shapes us as the people we are now. Before you trust someone, it makes sense to learn about their past. 

But you don’t want to know everything either

You do not want to know 100% of a person, if you know 15 to 50% it will be more than enough to be able to make a correct judgment and know if you can give that person your confidence. The key is to understand enough about a person to decide if you can trust them. 

All people can have trust problems in some moments of life, it is normal … we are human and it is our nature to distrust. On the other hand, if you follow these tips from now on you can improve your skills and your ‘sixth sense’ to be able to identify the people who deserve your trust or not. These tips will also help you identify whether these people are toxic and whether or not they deserve a place in your life.

From now on you can enjoy true relationships, leaving aside the people who do not deserve a place in your mind or in your heart. Do you already know with whom you will use these tips to know if they deserve your trust or not? 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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