It is difficult to cover the subject of suicide, as well as to understand the person’s reasons for thinking about it and even for carrying it out. For this reason, family members often do not know how to act or how they can help a loved one who has attempted suicide. Therefore, from Bekia we leave you a series of key points or tips in these cases:
1. Strengthen the company:
Not only to prevent him from trying to commit suicide again, but to make him feel accompanied, that he is not alone, that you are by his side, you support him, you love him, etc. On these occasions it is vitally important that the person feels that they are important to others, that they are necessary and that they are not expendable.
2. Show your support:
Empathize with the person, do not recriminate their attitude or behavior. Instead, put yourself in his place, make him see that you understand him, that you do not share his ideas but that you do not blame him, that you are there to support him and to help him overcome it.
3. Be positive:
When you talk to him, do so in a positive way, avoiding negative phrases or aspects that are painful for her. In this way you will help him to see the positive side of life and that it is worth continuing to fight, instead of giving up.
4. Listen to what he has to say:
Be his point of support, listen to what he has to say, explain how he feels, what he is afraid of, his concerns, etc. It is as important that you listen to him as that you accept what he tells you and help him through it.
5. Worry about him:
After the suicide attempt it is important that you are aware of his well-being, his comfort, that he is well, he will notice it and feel better.
6. Do not attack him with questions:
Let him be the one to tell you things when he feels like he’s ready.
7. Do not tell anyone what happened:
A suicide attempt is a very serious and intimate issue, so you should let the affected person decide how, when and to whom they decide to tell what happened.
8. Spend time with him:
Make him entertain and disconnect from his problems, tell him an anecdote, watch a movie, go for a walk, etc.
9. Take out of his reach anything that he could use to hurt himself:
It is important to remove potential temptations and provide a safe space and environment.
10. Know the reasons that have prompted him to do so
It is important that in order to adapt the care you know what situation has led him to try to commit suicide.
11. Be aware of their attitude, their behavior, etc.
Since days before carrying out it, even weeks, he shows symptoms similar to depression and in this way we can know if he may run the risk of wanting to hospitalize him again.
12. Provide the necessary psychological help:
After the suicide attempt, he goes to specialists, both psychologists and psychiatrists, they will know how to act in the situation and take the appropriate measures for his case, in addition they will advise you in a more individual and personalized way on how you can help the person.
13. Support groups:
If necessary, you can advise her to go to a support group or therapy groups with which she can relate to people who are going through or have gone through the same thing, making her see in this way that she can go out and that she has people who understand and support her. .
Why can a person think about committing suicide?
For a person to reach the point of making a suicide attempt, very extreme situations have to occur in their life, such that said person does not know how to face them, is unable to overcome them and believes that the only way out is death.
In most cases it is a set of negative situations that lead to suicide, however there are times when it is only the pressure of a single problem that causes it. It is impossible to say which are the ones that make a person think about committing suicide since each person is affected by different things and with different levels, but here we leave you the most common according to various studies:
– Suffering a significant loss , either for a loved one, a very precious asset, etc.
– Serious financial problems, with great difficulty in leading the desired life.
– A physical or sexual abuse, making it very difficult for the person to lead a normal life, trust people, feel comfortable with themselves, etc.
– Divorce or end of a very important relationship for the person.
– Problems with justice.
– Serious diseases such as cancer, cerebral palsy, amnesia, etc; or at a psychological level such as: depression , eating disorder, schizophrenia, etc.
In short, a very big change in the person’s life , a change that involves a completely unknown situation, a high level of frustration, very stressful situations on a psychological level, without knowing how to approach or get out of them, etc.
Is it possible to know if the person is planning to commit suicide?
In few occasions the decision to commit suicide is not premeditated , generally the person always plans and has suicidal thoughts long before carrying them out. For this reason you can get to intuit days in advance , you just have to be aware of the person’s behavior, observe how they act, listen to what they say, how they feel, etc; to be able to detect the signs and warning signs it displays. Among the most common we can find:
– Feeling of depression or deep sadness: The person is much more sad, apathetic, with symptoms very similar to depression, without wanting to do things that previously seemed fun or caused him some kind of pleasure, etc.
– Physical abandonment: The person stops taking care of themselves physically, both in terms of food and exercise, as well as when dressing, getting ready to go out, etc.
– Reckless behavior, carrying out activities and having dangerous attitudes that put their life at risk, without fear of something happening to them and without fear of dying.
– Constantly talking about saying goodbye, giving away precious objects, talking about death, distancing yourself from close people, etc.
– Change in their behavior, in their way of acting, of seeing things, of their ideals or principles, of relating to people, etc.
– Self-harm, that is, inflict pain on oneself.
– Loss of appetite and alterations in sleep cycles, lack of energy, general tiredness, anxiety , stress, etc.
It should be noted that these attitudes do not always end in suicide, they are just some of the signs that a person can present when they plan to kill themselves. For this reason, it is important to detect them in time and go to a specialist who can offer you the necessary help.