It is possible that you have ever encountered people in your life who are always hostile or who like to confront others almost daily, it seems that it makes them feel better. Actually these people are suffering, but you are not to blame for their emotional backpack and also, a person who does not want help and feels good being that way, will not change. For this reason, it is essential that if you meet these types of people in your life, you know how to handle them and also, remove them from your life if necessary.
These types of people can appear in your personal or professional life, although at first they seem dominant and demanding, they can also be abusive. It is necessary that you have a cunning attitude towards these people and that you learn to dominate situations with assertiveness so that aggression becomes cooperation and coercion, respect.
Why a person is hostile and likes to confront
There are many reasons why a person may have connotative behavior and unwarranted hostility towards others. The most common causes are usually: pathological anger, aggressiveness, pathological bullying, narcissistic rage, post-traumatic stress disorder, brain trauma, drug abuse or simply, that you are having a crisis in your life.
It can also happen that that person is having a bad day but that normally is not the case, although it is also possible that they have a mental disorder. In any case, it is necessary that you learn to handle these types of people without hurting your heart with their hostile words and their aggressive-passive behavior.
Learn to have it under control
Protect your safety
First of all you have to protect yourself, if you notice that the situation is tense, uncomfortable or you feel violent , then you will have to leave. Seek help if necessary, even contact the relevant authorities if you think it is appropriate.
Keep physical and emotional distance
Your time and your happiness is what matters most, that is why you must ensure your well-being. Do not try to deal with that person whoever they are, simply mark physical and emotional distance so that they do not have access to you or your emotions.
If you ever feel trapped in the situation think creatively and differently. Talk to friends or advisers to help you with the situation.
You need to stay calm at all times because if not, you will be giving him power over you. By staying calm, you can better use your judgment to handle the situation. Remember that calm will be your best ally and your hostile aggressor will move away because it does not achieve its purpose, which is to anger you and get your attention.
When you feel angry with another person, before saying the first thing that comes to mind, take a deep breath and count to 10 so your mind can think more clearly. It will give you time to regain your composure and find a better solution to the problem.
Depersonalize the situation
It is very important that you do not take anything personally because others say and do according to their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you will not be the victim of unnecessary suffering.
Don’t be passive and obedient
A hostile person can turn into a person who attacks you if he sees that you are weak and if you remain passive and his aggressions. If you start to show your strength that person will weaken because deep down he is a coward. Defend your rights and it will back down.
Make sure you position yourself so that you are safe at all times. Record what happens to other people, do not face it alone.
If that hostile person tries to violate your limits, don’t take ‘no’ for an answer, implement consequences. For example, you can put aside or make the void. The important thing is that you don’t give him power over you.