People with low self-esteem can see themselves with a distorted perspective, incompetent even as if they are not suitable for the society in which they live. They may also know on a more or less conscious level that these things are not true, but they feel that way on the inside and it does not allow them to be happy. That’s what makes self-esteem challenges so difficult for some people. Often it is not about the reality of what it is, but about the perception of what a person feels.
People with low self-esteem may appear socially withdrawn or quiet, negative, insecure, indecisive, unhappy, or even angry with the world. They are more likely to find themselves in unhealthy relationships, fear failure, and worry about what others think. On the other hand, those with high self-esteem, most of the time, feel a strong sense of self-worth and worth, feelings of trust and acceptance. They will have better relationships, take better care of themselves, and be resilient. They are not so afraid to speak their minds.
Self-esteem can be measured on a scale from high to low. Having low self-esteem has its downsides, and having too much self-esteem can also be negative. People with high self-esteem can end up being conceited, narcissistic, and egotistical.
It is important to seek balance so that your self-esteem is strong and allows you to have a happy life . In this regard, it is important to find the balance of a strong sense of self-worth and humility as we go through life.
How to build a strong sense of self-worth
Self-esteem issues essentially lie in the gap between who you are now and who you think you should be. Paradoxically, most of the causes of low self-esteem stem from how others see or treat you, but the solution to increase your self-esteem is something that must come from the inside out and not from the outside in.
Building your self-esteem is not an easy task, but it is a worthwhile investment. Once you have a good self-esteem , you will reap many benefits and rewards for life. How to get it?
1- Identify the causes of the problem
You will have to identify the cause or causes that cause you to have low self-esteem. It may be a reason that you did not take into account as for your parents you were never good enough. Regardless of the experiences you have had, and whatever the root problem you may have, it is necessary that you find help from an expert to help you discover what your traumas , past experiences or problems are that cause you to have low self-esteem. An expert will help you have the necessary tools, tactics, and strategies.
2- Look how others see you
See yourself how others see you and talk to yourself while others talk to you. What I mean by this? Think of the person who loves you the most in this world. Unconditionally. Then look through their perspective and find out how they really see you. What would they tell you? What do they like about you? If you don’t know the answer to these questions, ask them directly.
You must strive to have a better self-esteem. The simplest advice is sometimes the best advice. When you do your best every day, you start to feel better about yourself. Now, the best of you might change day by day, and some days, your best effort won’t be as good as the day before. And nothing happens. It is important to remember that you are doing the best you can with what you have, in this moment, in this day, in this situation, with this time frame with your level of skill or knowledge.
When you know you’ve done your best, don’t regret it and nothing will make you feel guilty. If you do your best and then someone criticizes you, it’s easier to ignore them when you know you did the best you can. Have you done your best today?