It’s hard to be optimistic when no one around you is, when other people seem to feed off your optimism to increase their pessimism. Having people around who only know how to complain about any circumstance can take away your energy and even vitality. But that doesn’t mean that if there are people around you who are pessimistic, that you too should become one of them … you can fight that and win!
Being optimistic is good for your physical health and also good for your mental health. In addition to releasing stress, you will have better health and avoid heart disease. In addition, you will also be less likely to suffer from cerebrovascular problems. Being optimistic is definitely good for you, no matter where you look at it.
It’s your decision, and no one else’s!
Actually being optimistic is a choice that you must make. There is research that shows that being pessimistic or optimistic does not have to be something natural or innate in the person, but that it is simply chosen, it is a way of life. In this research two groups of people were compared to test their thinking pattern .
One group had to do a 5 minute exercise every day to think positive things about their future and the other group went on with their life without optimistic thinking. The first group increased their optimism within two weeks and felt more optimistic overall. The second group does not. If you want to be more optimistic despite the negativity that may be around you, you are free to get it, because first you just have to want it.
Decide to be optimistic
In life there are many choices and one of them is deciding how you want to live your life. You can spend the day cleaning your house or reading. P wadis eating out at a restaurant or eat at home. You can meet a friend to see him or just get him out of your life. In this sense, you can also choose to be positive and live life in a better way. Being a positive person in a negative world is a challenge, but it begins with your decision to be positive and live like that every day of your life. It is a lifestyle that will change you forever.
Put aside the toxic vampires
Toxic vampires are all those people who steal your energy when they are by your side. They are those people who complain about everything, who criticize, who suck up the positive energy in the room. These people think that the world revolves around them, and that they often lack a sense of empathy for others.
They need to establish healthy boundaries with these types of people because they consciously and chronically want to live in their misery, but don’t let them include you in that plan. For example, if you always give solutions to a friend and he only insists that nothing will work, then tell him assertively that you do not know if you can really help him because he does not want to get out of the hole he is in … since there are options, but no they are worth it.
You can also stay away from those people who only make you feel bad, talking about how everything is horrible … Also limit the news section because they only talk about the bad thing that happens in the world. They do NOT have a section where they talk about the good that happens and makes people think that there is only evil in the world. While it is true that there is evil, there is also goodness and good work, but that, it seems, is not news.
Acknowledge your negative thoughts
It is okay to accept that bad things can happen, to ignore reality is not healthy. Being optimistic does not prevent you from being realistic and, furthermore, being optimistic is key to giving your best at all times. If you are too positive you will not be realistic either and then it could be problematic. For example, if you are too optimistic for a job interview, you may lose perspective and. don’t prepare enough to do a good interview and lose your job. However, if you have an overly negative outlook, you could sabotage their chances of getting hired. Thinking, “No one will ever hire me,” will make you look and feel defeated when you walk into the interview room. Your lack of confidence may be the reason they don’t hire you.
A healthy perspective would be to remind yourself that all you can do is the best you can give of yourself right now and that it is okay regardless of the outcome. Being optimistic helps you believe that there are brighter opportunities on the horizon and that you can push yourself to earn those opportunities.
If negative thoughts assail you, take a moment to assess how realistic your thoughts are. Collect those negative thoughts and start replacing them with other thoughts that are more realistic and help you maintain your dose of optimism.
Be positive with others
It is not your job to make others feel good or happier, but being positive in your day to day will not hurt anyone. Once a day, you can share your positive thoughts and comments with other people. At work congratulate someone who has done something well, at home praise your children for doing their homework well or for trying to do their best, tell your partner everything you love with a big hug.
Making other people feel good will make them feel positive and will also have great effects on lifelessness. Therefore, being positive will always do good to others and above all, to yourself.
Before going to sleep, think about what you have done during the day. Even the day has been bad, it is likely that you can still get good things like learning or behaviors that you can praise yourself for such as keeping calm in front of an overly irascible client at work.
Imagine your life in the future from optimism and be grateful for what you have. You can keep a journal of visualizations, of what happens to you every day and also of gratitude. You will feel much better almost without realizing it.