Throughout our lives we have to face beautiful, ugly, sad, happy, overwhelming situations and a long list of feelings that we have to learn to face. One of the most difficult situations we have to face is the death of a loved one.
Getting used to the idea that we will not see a person again for the rest of our lives can cause trauma. The truth is that it is difficult to cope with the death of a loved one and, therefore, we will have to go through a period of mourning until we manage to overcome this situation.
When a loved one dies we have to go through a period of anxiety, fear, sadness and pain. We will ask ourselves a thousand questions, but the most frequent is How am I going to overcome her loss? How long will it take? Until the moment in which we manage to overcome that loss, we will be immersed in the duel.
How long does the duel last?
Like any self-respecting process, grief has its time and we cannot force ourselves to want to feel good because we have to go through a trance until we get over the death of our loved one. Forcing ourselves to overcome it can only cause us anxiety and bad mood because we cannot be well.
Each person is a world and each one of us needs a process to overcome this sadness that invades us. As a general rule, if it is not a traumatic death, the person begins to feel a little relief from this feeling of sadness within months of the death of the loved one. But this will not mean that in a few months we will have overcome it and we will be fine, because as you have just read you will only feel a small relief and it will be the beginning of this overcoming of the duel .
After a few months, we will begin to feel better, but do not be overwhelmed if in some moments that feeling of sadness, anxiety, pressure in the chest returns. It is absolutely normal. There are even times when we believe that enough time has passed after months because we begin to feel better and suddenly we go back to having a bad streak. This is very normal.
Another important date when it comes to grief is when 1 year passes after the death of our loved one. It is there when our body and our mind begin to be conscious and to overcome the grief. Although it can be said that there will be some special dates in which we feel a bit sad because the death of a loved one there is no time to heal it. We have to learn to live again without that person, but we will always keep him very present.
What can affect the duration of the grief?
There are some factors that can mean that the duel is longer or shorter, and they are the following:
– The relationship we had with the deceased. The closer the relationship, the longer the mourning will be.
– The trauma caused by the loss . It is not the same that a person dies who was sick and we knew they were going to die, than one in a sudden accident.
– The will to overcome the grief . The desire that we have to overcome this loss is going to be crucial.
– Unfinished business that we had with that person. The issues that we would not have resolved with the person who has died can be decisive when it comes to overcoming their death, because it can bore us for a long time.
To conclude, we have to say that when one year has passed since a person’s death we have already gone through all the important dates, Christmas, birthdays, important dates, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and therefore we know what it is like to throw I miss that person. This does not mean that we stop feeling pain, but it will be much easier for our minds to feel a little more relieved after 1 year.