From time to time, married people may fall in love with another person; But in some cases, these feelings can turn into something more like an affair. But how can you tell if he’s just being friendly or developing strong feelings for you? Nobody rules over the heart but it is always good to know what type of terrain is the one that is treading.

Whether it’s in the workplace or socializing with friends, the signs that a married man is attracted to you are the same. It is important to know these hidden signals to stop things before they go too far and into more uncertain territory.

His body language gives him away

One of the greatest gifts to know if a married man is attracted to you is through his body language. You might even be trying to hide your feelings , but usually someone’s body language makes their intentions clear without them even realizing it. If he is interested in you, he will stand openly, with his chest exposed and his legs slightly open.

She is likely to unconsciously turn her body in your direction, especially when standing with her shoulders, pelvis, and legs pointing towards you. If he has sat down, see if he is leaning back in his chair with his hands behind his head and his elbows jolting. It is a classic and relaxed posture that aims to draw attention to features such as his arms, inviting you to enter.

Maintains eye contact

A man who makes a lot of eye contact for no reason is just another example of behavior, demonstrating his attraction to you. It is especially important if their gaze stays in your direction longer than you would expect the average person to look at someone. He may try to subtly look at you from across the office, but if you see him staring at you and suddenly look away, then it’s obvious that he has feelings for you and maybe he’s trying to hide his attraction to you.

He gives you a lot of compliments

Another hidden sign that a married man may be attracted to you is if he goes out of his way to flatter you; It could be anything from what you look like to something you did at work. But constantly finding a way to compliment you is a clear sign that he thinks of you as more than just a coworker or friend.

Always close to you

If he has feelings for you, he probably wants to find some excuse to spend time with you.  You may find that he is constantly changing plans, popping up by your desk, or stopping at the copier when you’re there in hopes of spending more time with you. This is just another hidden sign that he might see you as more than just a coworker, and he may have developed serious feelings for you.

He starts the conversations

Who is always the first to speak?  If the answer is him, and the conversations don’t always revolve around work , then this is a hidden sign that he has feelings for you. Ask yourself do you need to talk to me now? If the answer is no, then ask yourself why is it him. The most plausible answer is that he likes you and therefore wants to talk to you whenever he can, showing that he sees you as more than just another colleague.

He asks you constant questions

This may seem strange, but a sign that a married man is attracted to you is if he asks you excessive questions when he is around you. These may be questions, which you think don’t make sense, and you suspect that he already knows the answers, but it ‘s just another tactic to keep you engaged in the conversation for longer than necessary.

Wants to impress you

Do you often find him doing his best to make you laugh? A crucial hidden sign that a married man might be attracted to you is if he is trying to impress you with humor. We all know that humor is a way of connecting and building relationships with people, so if you find that he’s always the first to make a joke, this may be proof enough that he’s attracted to you.

Similarly, men who act like the alpha male , and showing off in front of other people to look good is an obvious way of trying to impress you. 

Makes a lot of complaints about his marriage

Perhaps the biggest sign that you attract a married man can be seen through the way he talks about his wife.  If he mentions her in conversations, just to complain or talk to her, take it as a big red flag that considers you more than a friend.

A married man who has feelings for you will want to look like the victim to gain your sympathy. He might claim that she is not loving, that she is cruel or that they have separated, but whatever he says, ask yourself: why is he telling me? More than likely, he is looking to develop his relationship with you and dismiss his marriage at the same time by complaining.

What to do when you know he likes you

If you like it, you have two options; Either tell him your feelings or try to bury them.  But remember that being the other woman (or man) is very dangerous territory. Take a minute to imagine the pain you would feel if you had a husband who behaved similarly, and imagine the pain and anguish his betrayal will cause his wife.

Maybe you really have strong feelings for him and want to be in a relationship with him; then you must make it clear that you are not interested in being the other woman and that you do not want to be responsible for breaking up their marriage. It is unlikely that he will leave his wife, just ask yourself why he has not left her already. Or it may be that he and his wife had problems for some time, even before they met you.

But you will never know unless you have a conversation to find out where you are. There is no point in starting a relationship that will never get anywhere because you are wasting precious time and energy when you could be wasting it on someone more valuable.

If you don’t like it, the most important thing is to be honest .  While flirting can be flattering and a fun way to brighten up your work day, keep it simple to avoid wearing it. Let him know that you only think of him as a friend, and that you hope to remain friends, but that there will never be anything else between you.