There are times when you just want to find balance in life, try to make the scale well balanced without feeling that there is a weight that is falling towards one extreme in a way that endangers the stability of the scale. In the same way that you calculate the money in your budget, it is important to calculate how you spend your time. Although it seems obvious, many people still do not know how to say “no” to the demands of others that cause their time to be unbalanced.
If you do not find the balance in your time and you organize yourself well , it is possible that your life becomes unbalanced causing you unnecessary stress. If you feel that your life is not in balance and that you are not able to organize your time well, it is necessary that you follow the following tips so that you feel again that you have control over your life.
Clear your life
Just as your rooms have to be clear of clutter, your life should be the same: clear . In fact, you can use the same process. First, get rid of all the clutter in your life and then put your schedule in order. Imagine your agenda empty and write in it only the things that are important to your life: work, rest and family.
Then write down the things in order of importance in your diary and add the things that you consider important in your daily life, such as the time you want to dedicate to exercise. Put aside all the things that exhaust and stress you or the obligations that you prefer not to fulfill.
This exercise to clear your life will help you know which things really matter and which are secondary. Tasks that can be simplified or that can wait, or people that rob you of energy and that drain you emotionally, are not high on your schedule.
Remember the tradeoffs
If you already have a full agenda, you will have to assess whether it is worth including more things to do or not. You must decide what to say yes or what to refuse. If you say yes to an external demand, it will be necessary to have time for yourself to exercise or spend time with the family, which is even more important. If what you said yes takes time away from what really matters in your life then you should assess whether it is really worth it.
Maybe it’s worth it, maybe not, or maybe you’d rather cut something else off your schedule. However, viewing each new commitment as something else to give up (even hypothetical) can make finding balance easier.
Not everything has to fall on you. If you can delegate some responsibilities to other people, just do it. Other people in your work can help you in a project and at home, both your partner and your children can collaborate in the housework, it is also their duty to do so!
Even if you see it necessary, you can consider the option of hiring help at home (babysitters, gardeners, cleaning staff), and this also counts as delegating. If you have money to pay them and it does not alter your family budget too much, it is something useful and worth it. If at any time you feel like your life is out of balance because you do too much, look around you, think about your responsibilities, and think about how you can get the help you need.
Live in the present with one foot in the future
It is important to live in the present, but without losing sight of the future. Plan your daily activities with goals that you want to achieve. Enjoy today but knowing where you want to go or where you want to be tomorrow. This general thought shouldn’t weigh you down, but it should help you maintain balance and perspective in your life and that of your family .
For example, when choosing whether to exercise or watch television, thinking about the long-term benefits of each makes it much easier to skip a somewhat entertaining program in favor of physical movement. Both activities can relieve stress, but one contributes to an overall plan for better health, while the other does not. Think about how your decisions should be to find a better balance in your life.