There are moments in our life that we must face situations that perhaps we did not expect or that can shake our world, causing our feelings to be altered and we do not feel as happy and blissful as we usually do. One of these processes is when a close person or a loved one dies, since at that moment we become aware that we are not going to see her again and that she has ceased to be by our side forever.

This emotion of sadness, the grief after loss, that we have all experienced at one point or another in our lives, is known as mourning. This is the feeling of loss, emptiness and grief that the loss of this other leaves in a person after their death . However, it is believed that there are many other situations in life during which a process similar to mourning can be lived , since the emotions that we can feel at each moment that this happens will be very similar to those we feel when a person to whom that we know well or that we love very much dies.

For this reason, it is normal for many people to wonder if we really mourn or grieve also in situations that do not involve death. Find out when this could be the case and how you can deal with these situations, so that you can control your pain and feel slightly better, as time passes, and come back, little by little, to recover your life and be happy , as you deserve.

Situations in which you could mourn without a death

Some of the situations during which it is believed that you could live this mourning without a death involved, would be those such as breaking with a partner , a family member or a friendship in a definitive way, another process of loss and sadness. One of the two, or both, would suddenly decide to stop talking, as if the other person had died, and they would totally lose contact. In this way, the same thing would happen as when a person stops living, that is, they would not be able to speak or know anything about each other from that moment on .

This process of sadness can be very hard, so it is always advisable not to cut off personal relationships, be they friendship, family or love, in this way. The best thing is to talk things over and decide to take different paths, but without having to cut your losses, for the emotional good of both of you. No matter how strong what has happened between the two of you, it is best to have a cordial relationship . Otherwise, you will go from having a very close bond with a person whom you appreciated a lot and, suddenly, you would stop seeing and talking to him or her, which would generate a feeling of emptiness, which is known as mourning. , after the death of a person.

Thus, the feeling of sadness could be very similar to that experienced during mourning or mourning. However, during mourning after the death of a person you are fully aware that you will not be able to talk to them again no matter how much you want to. However, when you mourn after the breakup with a family member, friend or partner, you always have the idea that you will be able to reconnect one day, although you may never do so. For this reason, the good memories will remain with time , just like when someone dies, and little by little you will also forget everything bad.

In the case of death, it is possible that you came to forgive that person, but after a breakup you may be aware that the other person is fine and you will never be able to forget the resentment that caused you to separate, or else you have the doubt to always of why she decided to end the relationship so abruptly. Therefore, the best thing will be that in time you try to rebuild your life and forget that person. To do this you must focus on yourself and being happy. It is completely normal that after a break of any kind you go through this kind of mourning, especially if you lived with this person and did everything together, but over time you will understand that you must be happy with yourself and that the next partner, friendship or the rest of your family members will also love and support you, making you feel complete and loved, letting go of this type of mourning or mourning that you can having lived after the emotional breakup, whatever it may be, without involving a death. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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