If you are grieving for the death of your partner , a family member or close friend, now is not the best time to make important decisions in your life. The death of a loved one is one of the most stressful events a person can experience in their life. It has a high emotional and physical cost for people who feel the loss, so it is a bad time to make serious decisions, whatever they are.

Decisions that you should NOT make in the middle of the grieving process

Moving to a new home

If you are thinking of selling your home or moving because a loved one died and you can’t stand having to return to that home … you should delay that decision for at least 6 months, since you are experiencing too many stressors right now. First of all, you are devastated right now physically, emotionally, mentally and even spiritually from having suffered a major loss and you may also have had to do too many administrative tasks … so a move may not you have neither strength nor energy to do it correctly.

Although it may seem tempting to escape the reminders of your deceased loved one, moving to another location may not be for the best right now. It is entirely possible that you may see your life or financial situation differently after several months or after the liquidation of your loved one’s estate. Therefore, avoid making a hasty decision if you can.

Throw away souvenirs or other reminders

If you have ever acted impulsively in an emotional moment and have done or said something that you later regretted, then you must trust that now is not the time to throw away souvenirs, photos, or other reminders of the person you have so much for. want and who has passed away . Even if these items make you sad or cry just when you see them. It is normal and is part of the grieving process.

Avoid throwing away any item that is linked to your loved one because doing so is losing it forever and you may regret doing so for life. Over time, perhaps six months or a year, you may feel differently as you begin to adjust to life after the loss of your loved one. At the very least, you’ll probably feel better over time to assess what you really want to keep and what you want to throw away.

If you just can’t tolerate these physical reminders right now, consider storing them in a place where they won’t be spoiled and you won’t have access, like a friend’s storage room or a room that you don’t use too much.

Job change

Sometimes companies do not respond to or respect people’s grieving process, and even if you are not physically or emotionally recovered from the loss of your loved one, you may have to go back to work. You may be contemplating quitting your job because you don’t feel up to going back.

While many factors can contribute to this feeling, you should try to delay quitting your job , find a new employer, or change careers for at least six months. Again, as long as your grief is present in you, your emotional state is likely to be more sensitive. It is better that you have time to recover and that you can adjust to the loss and thus be able to really evaluate the path you want to take.

Changes in your economy

For many people, the death of a loved one often forces the survivor to take on a host of new responsibilities, including personal or household financial matters. Staying a widower, for example, can make you not know how to handle money if it was your partner who took care of it previously. You may need to find another job to meet the expenses or find the services of an advisor to help you manage your money properly.

You may also have to deal with debts of the deceased … but it is necessary to delay any decision for at least six months and above all, find a way to solve this situation in the best possible way.

You may not think clearly after your loved one’s death and make wise decisions . Selling a home, for example, may offer an outlet for your loved one’s memories, but staying in that home can make it better for you in the long run.

What to do if you can’t delay an important decision

Despite the suggestions above, only you know the unique circumstances you are facing right now after the death of your loved one. If it doesn’t seem feasible to delay a particular life decision for six months to a year, you will first need to discuss the situation with a friend or someone you trust.  Often times, simply having a conversation with someone who wants the best for you could help you find a better perspective on the situation and make you realize that perhaps that situation that seems so urgent to you is not so urgent.

If you are thinking of doing something that could affect your money , it is also a good idea to discuss it with someone you trust, but you will also need to seek the opinion of a professional financial advisor. It is also a good idea to inform yourself if you can make reversible decisions, for example, instead of selling your house, you can find a way to live for a time in another place for a while and rent the house or keep it closed until you feel the strength to return.

Or if you can’t handle financial accounts, talk to a very trusted person to help you with this. Only in this way can you ensure that your accounts are not too affected.

Remember that your personal care is important

The most important thing you can do is take care of yourself while grieving. Grief is hard work and it has a genuine physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual toll on our bodies, minds, and hearts. Unfortunately, the old saying that “time heals all wounds” is not true after the death of someone close. Instead, what happens is that you gradually assimilate the loss of a loved one and you learn to live with the scar on your heart, but we never really forget the person who died … nor is it overcome. You only learn to live again.

Trust right now within your sadness, that you will reach that state and try to avoid making important decisions in life in a hurry while the pain feels stronger. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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