It is common to hear advice such as “you must love yourself ” or “you must value yourself so that others value you”, but those people who we can consider narcissists due to their high ego do not need to listen to this to carry it out in their day to day . A priori, this could be something favorable, since the narcissist is capable of transmitting that love he feels for himself to others and putting it on the table in situations that can be very useful, such as in a job interview, But the reality is that a person with an ego that is too high may not be so favorable to himself on a day-to-day basis , especially when it comes to finding happiness and an enriching social life.

At present, a narcissistic person will appear on social networks as what they consider themselves to be, someone with qualities above those that others may have and with an ego that they will reflect in their photographs. If you manage to find the reciprocity of your viewers, your happiness will remain stable, intact, but instead if you find a negative response from the public such as negative comments or few signs of liking, that self-esteem that at first seems untouchable will be collapsed and Your disappointment could turn into an aggressive attitude due to the lack of resources to solve it.

The narcissist will never think that something is wrong or does not work because of him, he will always think that the error belongs to others

Leaving aside the part of his presence in social networks, we would get to the day to day of a narcissistic person who must keep his ego high, because his happiness is based on it. In general, someone who shows excessive self-confidence can actually be considered an insecure person who tries to conceal that facet in a conscious or unconscious way. This hidden insecurity is like a bomb stored inside the narcissist, and as long as everything is to the liking of the individual, his life will be fine, but instead, when the narcissist finds a wall that he cannot cross, a problem that he cannot solve, he will see that their insecurity is being visible to the eyes of others and will cause the explosion of that internal bomb, a feeling of sadnesssuperior to what any other person would feel when faced with a disappointment or a reality that is difficult to face, since one is usually more prepared for failure by being more aware of reality than a narcissist.

We must not forget that a narcissistic person is not perfect, he only believes he is and projects this idea for others to believe.

It is possible to find the case of a person who at first glance may seem like someone narcissistic but who in reality is not , or at least this is not a trait of his personality but simply a part of him in which he feels very safe. For example, if we imagine an art expert giving an explanation to his friends in the museum in a very vehement way, seen from the outside we can think that he is someone who is too self- confident or that he is overvalued, but it is possible that that same person is not so confident when talking about literature or television, but feels good because he is in the right context and feels confident with the situation. Everyone has these key moments and they should be enjoyed, because it is importantvalue yourself when you are really good at what you do, but if you believe that everything you do is perfect, perhaps we are dealing with a person who has a distorted perception of reality and of himself.

Narcissistic people do not feel happy and perfect even though that is the image they try to give to others. They really are people with their frustrations , their problems and also with the conviction that they must hide all those aspects of their life in order to show themselves as they should be. The perfect thing is that these people can find someone with whom to show themselves as they are, a private environment in which to have a way of escape and a sample of reality, since in case this does not happen, in the long run that attitude it could be dangerous for your emotional stability. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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