It is normal that, throughout our lives, we live different stages during which our tastes and priorities will change as we progress in years. It is possible that, at a certain age, our closest friends and family begin to formalize their relationships , either by moving in together or celebrating a wedding or marriage.

Regardless of whether they are married or not, these people of similar ages to ours may begin to have children. At that moment, whether you have a stable partner or not , you may begin to consider whether you see the possibility of having them yourself, in case you have not thought about it before . There are people who dream about it throughout their lives and others whose reflection on this issue arises much later, this being something completely normal.

Perhaps you have had, in the years leading up to this moment, other priorities. It is possible, whether you are a man or a woman, that you have put other interests before parenthood or motherhood in your past, such as: that your studies have been something very important in your life, your work or your hobbies. Be that as it may, there is nothing wrong with the fact that you have not thought about parenthood or motherhood before, but now that the moment of clarifying this issue arises, you probably want to know if you want to have children or not one day .

Do I want to have children right now?

The first thing to keep in mind is that having children is a great responsibility. To do this, you will need to have the necessary time to dedicate it to the little ones, not only when they are babies, but also throughout their lives . You must also bear in mind that having children is a great investment and that for this you will need to have emotional stability, but also financial stability.

Therefore, before considering whether you want to have children at this very moment, you should realize if you are really ready for parenthood or motherhood. Even if you are a certain age and your friends or family have started having children, they do not have to be at the same point in their life as you. Perhaps you still have many experiences to live . Remember that everyone has their own rhythm and that there is no obligation to have children at a certain age, you can choose when you think the time is right.

It is possible that, as the years go by, you may begin to feel more comfortable or more comfortable with the presence of children around you, especially if the people closest to you have children. It may be that at that moment you begin to know if you really want to have children, but again you should bear in mind that they are a great responsibility and that you should only have them if you have the time and the emotional and financial stability necessary for parenthood or motherhood , although the economic stability is increasingly difficult to obtain.

I don’t think I want to have children

It may also be the case that you do not want to have children. After thinking about it for many years and having doubted it, it is likely that you have not found the emotional or financial stability to have children or that you prefer to spend more time with yourself or your partner . In that case, the best thing is that you do not have children, because nobody forces you to have them and you should only do it if you really want to.

For some societies this is difficult to understand, especially in the case of women, but you are free to decide what you want to do with your life. Therefore, you should not explain to anyone if you do not want to have children. If you have a stable partner and both of you agree with this decision, only you should decide on parenthood and motherhood, without having to take into account the opinions of others.

So, it is totally normal that at a certain point in your life you ask yourself if you want to have children or not . It will depend on each specific moment to determine if you are prepared or prepared for this great responsibility, for life, and if it is really what you want and not a social imposition. Remember that you are free to choose and that your priorities may change as you grow older, so you may not feel like having children in your twenties, but after thirty-five you may or may not. This decision depends only on you and what makes you the happiest. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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