Many people with all their different personalities can enter your life, and it is necessary to understand how a person can be to know how to treat them, and above all, to know whether or not it is worth keeping them within your closest social circle . If there is someone in your life with a narcissistic personality, knowing how to deal with that person will make your relationship much easier and more bearable.

Forget about the normal rules of love or friendship when dealing with a narcissist. Whether it’s a spouse, friend, relative, or colleague, the narcissist has the ability to drain your energy, make you doubt your own integrity, and lose confidence in yourself if you don’t know how to deal with how they act when they’re with you.

Next we are going to explain what you can do to deal with these types of people and that of course, the relationship you have with them is not toxic. In the event that things do not go well or you notice that it is draining your energy too much, then it is best to remove that person from your life, as much as possible depending on the type of relationship you have. Although if he is a very close relative and you cannot move him away, then you should take measures so that he does not affect you so much.

Recognize a narcissistic personality

The first step is to recognize a narcissistic personality . A narcissist has a heightened sense of their own importance, always puts themselves ahead of others, loves to be the center of attention, and needs constant admiration and praise.  However, not all narcissists are created equal – some are unpleasant, rude, and difficult to deal with, while others are harmless, sympathetic, and even charming, at least on the surface. 

The main quality that a narcissist lacks is empathy . A narcissist will want to love himself unconditionally, will have a limited view of his actions and will not feel regret in the event that he does harm to other people intentionally or unintentionally. The only thing that matters to him is his own person.

Focus on the positive

It may seem quite complicated, but depending on the type of relationship you have, it can be the healthiest. If you are in a close relationship with a narcissist, focus on their positive qualities. You should keep in mind that being intimately involved with a narcissist is likely to result in pain and loneliness , because they are simply not capable of true intimacy. 

But if you are already in love with or married to such a person, remind yourself of the reasons why you fell in love with her in the first place. Accept that her narcissistic personality is part of the package and focus on her most attractive attributes.

Have realistic expectations

You need to accept that the narcissist in your life has emotional limits. Don’t ask him to be someone he’s not, or expect him to be a trusted confidant, because he won’t put your feelings and sensibilities above his. Turn to others for compassion and support … You are very unlikely to receive this from the narcissist . If you don’t like the type of relationship you have, then maybe that person is not the one who should be by your side in a romantic relationship.

Communicate successfully with that person

Forget leaning back to make a narcissist happy, you’re wasting your time. That said, successful communication with this personality type requires a certain amount of ego “massage.” Making demands or showing anger rarely works with these types of people. For example, instead of telling your narcissistic partner that they need to go to a friend’s party with you because you don’t want to go alone, say something like, “My friend really misses you and I’d love to see you there with me.”  If you are already in a close relationship with a narcissist, this technique is the best way to get what you want from him.