Having a passive aggressive person around is not easy. They are complex people who can leave you confused as they use their actions in a complicated way to cope with stress, anxiety and insecurities. People who are passive aggressive often deny being hurt, angry or offended when in fact they are … and as a consequence they will attack you in subtle and disconcerting ways because they are not going straight.

A person with passive aggressive personality traits can isolate you from their attention, they will use passive violence such as closing doors so that you do not approach, telling you that they do not want to eat the dish that you have cooked for them … they can also participate in subtle forms of aggression relational. Normally, people who receive this type of attack do not know why this behavior is occurring, since the person with passive aggressive personality traits, denied being angry so that behavior does not make sense.

Passive aggressive people are often sarcastic, even when sarcasm is an inappropriate response. When confronted with their bad behavior, they will try to associate it with a joke accusing the victim of being too sensitive. These bullies also tend to seek out people who will not address their actions or hold them accountable. Consequently, they take advantage of people who are afraid of conflict or who are dedicated to pleasing people. In doing so, they don’t have to be honest about their feelings or take responsibility for their actions, but they can still express their hostilities without actually having to fight.

Once you recognize that a person in your life has passive aggressive personality traits, then the time has come to know what to do to stand up to him and that his unstable tactics never affect you again . Don’t give it power …

Coping with a passive aggressive person

Facing a passive-aggressive person requires honesty. Paying attention to unapologetic behavior and setting boundaries with that person is paramount. You must remember that passive aggressiveness is a form of hostility and should be treated as such … Also, passive aggressive people do not openly discuss issues that may be bothering them. As a result, when confronted with them they may make inappropriate comments and whisper quietly. Don’t let this stop you from confronting their behavior. Here are some other ways to overcome the negative effect of dealing with passive aggressiveness.

    • Be direct. When dealing with a person with passive aggressive personality traits, you want to make sure you are assertive and clear about expectations. You will have to set limits whenever necessary. Make sure you don’t say anything that could be used against you later, that is, everything is real and not emotional. You must be clear and sensible in your arguments because that will be the best defense.
    • Check your answer. Stay calm , have a neutral voice, and control your emotions. The less you react to his actions, the less control he will have over you. Remember that you will not be able to control their response (hitting, having tantrums as an adult …), but you can control your response and in this lies all your control and power. You have to respond in a healthy way to unhealthy behaviors.
    • You cannot change him. You can’t change it even if you try. Coping with these tips is a positive step, but there is no guarantee that the other person will accept what you are saying. Therefore, you should focus on what you can do to improve your situation, setting limits and communicating honestly about how their actions affect you.
    • No offense. Because if you do, you will be giving it power. Remember that the anger of a passive-aggressive person comes from their source and is not your responsibility . You don’t have to appease the passive-aggressive person. Stick to what you know to be right, regardless of their misbehavior or their demands.
  • Have empathy. Although it may be difficult for you because it really is a challenge to be compassionate and empathetic with someone who is so difficult to be around. But in the end, it can be very effective. By trying to understand where their behavior is coming from, you may be able to help them cope with their behavior and understand their own emotions .


Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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