Fortunate those who can count on their best friends on one hand, although sometimes the society in which we live seems to encourage the quantity rather than the quality of friendships. Social networks greatly influence personal relationships and the links we establish with others, not only from our closest environment or surroundings, but also establishing connections with people who are on the other side of the world. What we really want to say is that the number of likes or comments on the different social profiles should not be the yardstick for choosing our best friends, those who will always be with us.

Many times we make the mistake of calling a person who is perhaps just a partner or a good acquaintance a friend , but the term friend is something so important that we should not always take it lightly. That is why today we want to give you the best tips so that you know who those people who will become one of your family can be and that is, as the saying goes, friends are the family that is chosen .

The power of knowing how to choose a good friendship

Surely, it has also happened to you; Imagine after a day of catastrophic misfortunes, you need to share everything that happened with someone , who listens to you carefully, gives good advice, or simply gives you that hug you need , a full-blown friend. However, in addition to supporting you, listening to you or showing your affection, a best friend must also have a series of requirements so that your friendship is unbreakable.

One of the main bases that a good friendship should have is that there is sympathy between the two, that is, that there is a previous attraction, a liking on the part of both, in addition to sharing similar hobbies or tastes. There are times when it seems that we are one for whom, however, we do not get along because the differences make more of a dent than everything that can unite you. Although, it is true that great friendships have started with a certain antipathy, albeit slight, in which many times the phrase “I used to like you badly, however now I adore you” is resorted to .

We mentioned it before, a good friendship has to share similar tastes or interests, this will provide us with great conversations that will be not only rewarding, but also enriching. How nice it is when you start to meet someone and you realize that you have things in common , that’s why it doesn’t hurt that we eventually mention our customs or hobbies when they introduce us to someone, because friendship never knows where you can find it. .

A good way to make new friends and perhaps thus be able to choose our friend of the soul, is to travel or visit different places . Many times we tend to think how boring our city can be, no matter how big it is, and it is that most of the time we usually go out and meet in the same places with the same people, so get out of your comfort zone, experiment new places and travel alone . Traveling is an experience on a personal level that is very enriching and makes you know yourself better, in addition to discovering new places, it can also be a good time to meet people that perhaps you would not otherwise do.

Respect and you will be respected. This is the maxim that we should all follow, not only to know how to choose a good friend well , but to practice it in our day to day in each conversation that we are going to start. In a friendship, respect for the other person must prevail , not only tolerate, but also understand their thoughts and opinions, let them express themselves and know their points of view without restricting or reproaching them. A good friendship should stick to being able to be oneself at all times , not trying to be someone else just to like it, being ourselves we are always right.

Spending time together is a duty but not an obligation. It may sound contradictory, but in a friendship there must be that desire to spend time with the other person, share activities or simply a call to know how you are, but at no time does it have to become an obligation . Frequently, there are friendships that are lost over the years due to the imposition of having to constantly be aware of the other person, which can often generate discomfort and make the other person feel like mere tissues of tears. The friendship is love, understanding, comprehension, but, of course, fun.

Best friends are those people who are willing to listen to you at any time, who will laugh with you on good days and accompany you in hard times. Finding a good group of best friends is not easy, but it is definitely worth it . Choosing our friend or friend of the soul should not be a matter of a day, nor a few likes or comments, it is an arduous process that will give you great experiences and memories forever.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.