Perhaps the New Year’s resolutions that you had in your mind and that you wanted so much to achieve have already fallen on deaf ears … most people start to build a habit but over time they allow them to decline because they consider them mostly too complicated to meet.

When a person does not fulfill their purposes it is because they have not really been aware of what it takes for a new habit to be maintained over time. If you want to change this and make your habits last in order to achieve your personal goals, then follow these tips and you will see that it is easier than you imagined.

The only thing that will make you do anything is …

There is one thing that will prevent you from achieving any goal if you do not use it and that is love. If you do not love yourself, you will not feel worthy of things, which means that you will ultimately fail in what you undertake to demonstrate your own unworthiness. However, love works in mysterious ways.  Just because you don’t love your body aesthetics doesn’t mean you don’t love your brain .  That’s why you got the highest paying job in your organization, but you haven’t been to the gym in five years. We grow up with different scars: some of us feel unworthy of relationships, others of happiness. Some feel unworthy of riches, others of friendships. And it’s not just about unworthiness,is that you grew up thinking that you could not have or do something in one area or another.

You may think that it has nothing to do with love, but rather disability.  However, the truth is that if you love yourself, you will stop thinking that you cannot have or be something. Love is like magic medicine that cures all ills.

So the first promise you should make? Love yourself. If that requires therapy, alone time in the hot tub once a week, having your friends tell you that they love you, going to massages, or simply acknowledging that you still don’t know how to love yourself but you will do it while you sit with the feeling of not loving yourself, exploring it until it dissolves, then that’s what you have to do . Love yourself first, everything else is second and will come alone.

Choose to create habits that you like

Some people have the idea that they will start to get into the habit of walking every day. The only problem is that they hate walking. Soon they will be cutting corners, parking the car closer to where they need it, or they will be too busy for that afternoon walk, since they simply do not enjoy walking. If you don’t like it, don’t do it. There are many ways to move your body that do not include walking.

There are times when there is an exception to this rule. If you have to lose weight quickly, whether you like it or not, a juice and a quick shake in the evening might be your best option. But then you have to want the end result so badly that you’re willing to go through a hard time getting it.

In general, the “do or die” mentality is great when setting goals, but if you can, make promises that you want to keep because you care; that is better. That is, what you have to do excites you as much as the end result of doing it. Likewise, choose habits that really work for you.

Responsibility and praise

Life becomes so much easier when we have support. When it comes to setting goals and forming new habits, there are tools on the internet like apps that send you an email a day asking if you’ve done what you promised to do. There are also professional life coaches and friends or family. Not only can a coach or friends be there to tell you if you fall off the train, they are also there to praise your efforts and results. They are there to cheer you up when everything feels too difficult.

In addition to something like a calendar in which you record daily if you did what you were supposed to do or not, or a calendar where what to do is marked and you can cross it off once done, having a support team will make you much more motivated to continue. with your new habit.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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