When there is a power struggle in a relationship, something is wrong. Although people like to feel the ‘power’ when they are with another person, it is not healthy or healthy to do so. Relationships with other people and also intimate relationships involve sharing and cooperation, and to achieve this a minimum of two people is needed. You may take this into account and put it into practice, but what if it is the other party in the relationship who is not so clear about this or does not want to?
Who cares less about the relationship will want more power. This is clear in a divorce, when one of the people wants to break the relationship at all costs and it does not matter that the other party wants to make it work. For a relationship to work, the opinion and interests of the other person must be taken into account.
When there is lack of cooperation in a relationship
When there is imbalance in an interpersonal relationship, it is usually due to a lack of cooperation in the relationship. There are some answers that you should know if this happens to you and thus, be able to find the balance of power in relationships.
Not accept the other
For there to be good communication and balance of power between two people, there must be mutual acceptance. It is necessary not to give control to the other person completely, it must be something reciprocal. Sometimes people prefer to accept someone else’s decision even if they disagree, which is not a good idea in the long run because it can lead to problems.
Confront for cooperation
Forcing another person to cooperate in a relationship is a risky choice, since it would be an unreal relationship and possibly full of grudges and discomfort. Cooperation is not required, if it does not come from the heart it is better to be aware that it is not a good relationship and that it is becoming toxic.
Trust is essential
In any relationship if there is no trust, there is nothing. The trust is central to people, when you trust the other person you’re hoping that will be on your side, you will consider your needs as well as yours and your desires, thoughts and feelings also matter. This trust, together with the experiences lived, builds a solid relationship.
When is it better to walk away
Sometimes it is better to be aware of the problem that exists in the interpersonal relationship and the imbalance of power that causes it to become toxic. If the person you have as a friend, family member or partner is not able to balance the power in the relationship, then it is better to put distance and distance yourself from that person.
Human relationships are much more than having power, they require intimacy, friendship, love, respect, experiences, exchange, communication and much more. Power shifts from place to place to really work.
If you want an interpersonal relationship to work, the most important thing to keep in mind is that power must be reciprocal. Power does not mean that you should dominate or control a person, quite the contrary. Power means being able to carry a relationship well by taking into account your wishes today and tomorrow taking into account the wishes of the other person, or vice versa.
People are social beings and we like to be surrounded by people we love and those who make us feel good, safe and stable. If the people you have next to you do not make you feel good, it is likely that they are not suitable for your personality and that it is better that you either find solutions to improve the relationship or if there is not much else that can be done, just walk away.