Sometimes, when a relationship begins, it is thought that everything will be rosy, but in reality, love is like a plant that must be watered every day with just enough water. If you water more than necessary it may be that the roots rot and the plant dies, on the other hand, if you do not water it at all, it will dry up and also die. The plant, like love , needs adequate doses of water so that it can grow strong and healthy.

But people are complicated by nature, and it can happen that there are attitudes that are not entirely correct in terms of maintaining a stable and healthy relationship. There are attitudes that can put your relationship in trouble, and what is worse, do, almost without you noticing … that love dies forever.

Next we are going to tell you some attitudes that can put your relationship at risk. In this sense, think carefully if you or your partner have these types of attitudes, because if so, then you better find a way to solve it before it is too late.

Not having effective communication

When there is no effective communication in the couple, then it can happen that the relationship deteriorates almost without realizing it. You are dealing with defensiveness if you always feel like you have to stand up for yourself in an argument with your partner, or if your partner is always on the attack, even if you are not being critical . 

This behavior can occur because it is used as a habit. Some people have a habit of being defensive and do not realize that they are defensive. It is also possible that a person has the inability to handle criticism correctly and also that other people are so sensitive to rejection that they react with anger to any criticism. Either way, working on effective communication as a couple is essential for everything to work.

Fights that escalate

Conflict in any relationship is natural, but when fights quickly escalate and become toxic , including yelling, name calling, and blaming, it’s a good sign that your relationship is heading for the finish line. This is a great danger sign that can predict the end of a relationship. Couples who are happy together and likely to stay that way are not as prone to fights as couples who are on rocky ground. If a healthy couple experiences fights, they can control it quickly. If not, the fights will continue to get worse until the relationship ends.

Ignoring the partner

A partner who withdraws from the interaction , turns off and withdraws from the other person … it is a sign that things are not going well. Ignoring your partner is a clear sign that everything may be about to end, sooner or later. It is what is known as hostile silence because it is like a passive-aggressive punishment when the partner disagrees for any reason. When this happens often, the relationship is in trouble and possibly ending sooner rather than later.

Not remembering how love started

When part of the couple, or even both of them, don’t know why they fell in love, then the relationship is in serious trouble . That’s a sign that so much negativity has been infused into the relationship that it has literally rewritten the history of the relationship. Healthy couples can easily list the reasons they fell in love, even 30 or 40 years later; But when a relationship is shaky, those reasons, like “his smile” or “the way he made me feel special,” are memories so distant as to be forgotten.  Without that basic foundation, the relationship is likely to fall apart very quickly.

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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