Relationships are not as easy as it seems … in fact, it is necessary to bear in mind that when two people decide to start a relationship, they are two people who come from different “worlds”, with their own experiences and with their own vision and perception of life. For a relationship to work, it is important that both parts of the couple do their part, and in addition to this, it must also be borne in mind that certain circumstances can cause the couple to have problems.

Next, we are going to tell you about some actions that can put your relationship in trouble. This way you can think twice before acting this way …

1. It is not a balanced relationship

If you are not putting in the same effort as your partner, this will put pressure on the relationship. This is where you need to communicate clearly with your partner about what you expect from the relationship in order to find a healthy balance. It’s not fair to expect one person to do all the work … or to have to guess how you feel at all times.

If you are receiving more than you are giving, you should reassess how you feel about your relationship. Are you happy or are you settling in? The sooner you find out, the better.

2. You talk about your relationship on your social networks

Social media can play an important role in your relationship, depending on how you use it. If you use social media to share personal details about your relationship or to vent after an argument, it’s going to end badly for both of you. When you’re frustrated or angry, your first instinct might be to pick up the phone and complain about your partner to your friends. But this will probably lead to a lot of negative feelings . Think of it like this: how would you feel if you heard your partner say those things about you?

Instead of turning to social media to vent your frustrations, spend some time alone and think about your feelings toward your relationship. At least this way you will face the problem head-on.

3. You try to change your partner

At the beginning of the relationship, you loved everything about your partner. Or so you thought … Now, the things that attracted you, at first, are the very things that you find irritating. You love him but you can’t help but think that you would love him even more if he changes certain aspects of his personality . In reality, nothing good ever comes of trying to change someone.

Your partner is not likely to change for you and it is unfair to expect him to. You are creating a problem out of nowhere by trying to make him your “ideal partner”, which is very detrimental to your relationship . You’re probably not going to love every little thing about your partner, but that shouldn’t be a problem. You must accept their flaws because that is something that can never change.

4. You don’t understand the limits

It is very important to set boundaries in a relationship. No two people are the same, so you may be causing trouble without realizing it. Your partner may be very fond of having his own space , but your constant need to talk to him is overwhelming. If you avoid having these conversations, you will never understand your partner’s needs, which can cause a lot of problems in your relationship.

The same applies to looking through each other’s phones. If your partner is not happy about this, then that is something you need to accept. Ignoring what they have said and spying on their phone shows a genuine lack of trust and respect . A healthy relationship is based on a good level of communication. Without that, it is not likely to last long.

5. You don’t show appreciation for your partner

When you’re comfortable with someone, you can dangerously forget to show gratitude and appreciation for all the things they do for you. Sometimes this makes them feel like they are being taken for granted or underestimated in the relationship. They don’t read minds, so it’s up to you to let them know how you feel. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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