A psychological abuse is a toxic person who must be out of your life, although sometimes, this is simply not so easy. Especially if this emotional abuser is a person close to you such as a boss, a father or a mother, a brother, a friend … Although it is not always easy to detect a psychological abuser, if you believe that the person who torments you is a psychological abuser, so you must know how to deal with him or her.

The first step in dealing with an emotionally abusive relationship is to acknowledge that it is happening, that is, that you are next to a psychological abuser . If you have been able to identify that you are really in an emotionally abusive relationship , it is the most important because then, you can take the following steps.

When you are honest about what you are living, you can start to take control of your life, instead of having that abuser having control over you, that is over! You can start putting these strategies into practice today.

Your physical and mental health should be your priority

Stop worrying about pleasing the person who abuses you. Do things that help you think positive and affirm who you are. You also have to make sure that you get the right amount of rest and that you follow a healthy diet. E hese personal care simple steps can help you cope with the daily stress of emotional abuse.

Set clear boundaries with the psychological abuser

Firmly tell the person abusing you that they cannot yell at you, they have no right to do so. To call you by your name, to stop insulting you and not to be rude to you because you do not allow anyone to talk to you or belittle you in that way.

Then tell him what will happen if he continues this behavior. For example, you can tell him that if he continues to insult you, the conversation will end and you will leave the place. The key to this is to stick with the limits. It is important that you do not say your limits if you do not intend to apply them later, because then the abuser will continue to think that they have control over you.

Stop blaming yourself

It is not your fault that an abuser crossed your path. There is nothing wrong with you, everything wrong resides in the mind of the abuser. If you have been in an emotionally abusive relationship for a period of time, you may believe that there is something seriously wrong with you. Why else would someone who says they love you act like that, right? But you are not the problem.  Abuse is a choice.  So stop blaming yourself for something you have no control over.

You cannot change the psychological abuser

You cannot change him, and if that person does not want to change, no one will. Despite your best efforts, you can never change an emotionally abusive person by doing something different or being different. An abusive person makes the decision to behave in this way. Remember that you cannot control their actions and that you are not to blame for their choices. The only thing you can fix or control is your response, nothing more.

Don’t get involved with a psychological abuser

In other words, if a psychological abuser tries to start an argument with you, starts insulting you, demands things from you, or gets angry with jealousy, don’t try to explain yourself, calm their feelings, or apologize for things you haven’t done … you don’t deserve it. grief and also, you will be giving power. Just get out of the situation if you can. Compromising with an abuser only sets you up for further abuse and heartache. No matter how hard you try, you won’t be able to get it right in their eyes.

Build a support network

Stop being silent about the abuse you are experiencing. Talk to a trusted friend, someone in your family, or even your therapist. Try not to spend time around the person who mistreats you and surround yourself with people who love and support you. This support network will help you feel accompanied and less isolated. They can help you see things in perspective.

Organize an escape plan. If your partner, friend or family has no intention of changing, you should not remain in an abusive relationship, you should get out of that situation as soon as possible. This may cost you, but depending on your situation you must take steps to end that relationship. Every situation is different, but talk to a therapist or a trusted friend or family member first to help you with this. 

Elle Mcdonald

I am Elle Mcdonald Specializations in Psychology . Graduated in psychology from the University of Tennessee in 2000. Diploma of Advanced Studies in the Department of Personality, Evaluation and psychological treatments with excellent results.

First Level of Master in Clinical Psychology at the Center for Behavioral Therapists (recognized with a scientific-professional nature by the College of Psychologists)

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